When I was going on dates, the men seemed very dull and required a lot of effort on my part to keep conversations going, meanwhile guys I was interested in never liked me enough or usually were involved with other people.

That's been my experience as well. Online and offline dating. I had it happen again a year or so ago, a guy that I met at a function wanted to hook up, but he really turned me off. While there were these two other guys that I was into, who ...well didn't like me enough or were involved with other people.

I've more or less given up. If it happens, it happens. But I'm not going to stress over it any longer. There's enough things to stress over...

I do know people who've had success with online dating, but they definitely treated it like a part-time job and were ruthless in weeding out the duds. Going on dozens of first dates sounds like torture, but that's me.

For me as well. The one's I went out on were pure torture. Can't quite bring myself to go through it again. You have to have teflon skin to do it, I sometimes think. Or the right attitude.

One friend suggested trying the site "How About We"...which is basically, "I want to go to the movie Deadbolt, who wants to come with me?" Still blind dating, just with a clear destination in mind. Not a fan of blind dating.