I agree, but must note that anti-depressents don't prevent you from feeling pain, they just prevent it from overloading the brain. My sister-in-law had that problem when her mother died; she stopped functioning and needed the boost to get over the worst of the pain. But that goes back to the underlying priciple you correctly point out--we destroy our ability to emphathise to be "successful," and some end up utterly unable to relate to others because they can't relate to themselves. My SIS fell apart because of underlying issues with her mother, not just because of her mom's death.