because it is a powderkeg in fandom at the moment

Tell me, I just deleted my Whedonesque account over it.

I completely agree with you about the lack of agency and I'm beginning to hate this claim that people who have a problem with this want to "make Buffy into a victim". She was already victimized by the plot, ignoring that doesn't make her strong, same as it did not make Veronica weak that she acknowledged someone had faulted her.

Bad enough they can't simply go without a rape plot but worse that they can't and try to downplay it. Twice.