Actually this fits a bit more with my last post on the topic. ;-)
People can have a romantic relationship without sex if they are both ok with it. Also everyone assumes that everyone else is straight so that's annoying. My advice to people would be to not fall for peer pressure and false ideas of what is "normal". Do things for yourself not others.
So true. You can love someone without it being sexual. And not everyone is "sexual", some people are asexual. Sexuality like gender isn't binary or definitive necessarily, it can be spectrum. I know, because I've met people who fall all along it both online and off. And it's not necessarily stagnant either...some people can start out as heterosexual, become bisexual, then homosexual. For some it's about who they fall in love with and gender is irrelevant.
A friend told me recently that we're hard wired to categorize and pigeon hole people, to put labels on them and fit them into defined slots. This person is gay, this person is straight, this person is black, this one is white...etc. But what if you are purple? Or bisexual? Or don't fit into a defined slot? What then? Most people don't...and are confused because they are trying to put themselves into a slot they can't quite fit into.
I remember getting fed up with Oprah once, because she went on and on about how if you had a lot of sex, you'd be happy. And the secret to happiness was lots of sex, and how studies had been done demonstrating that people who got laid more often were found to be happier. Seriously? No. I had a friend who had a lot of sex and was miserable. I stopped paying attention to Oprah about ten-fifteen years ago -- because she has a tendency to preach about things she knows nothing about, making broad generalizations...based solely on her own limited experience on the topic. Which to be fair, I think, is what a lot of people do.
The assumption that everyone experiences sex the same way annoys me. It's blantantly stupid if you think about it. We don't experience anything else the same way, why would we experience it? I mean not everyone can digest bread, I can't. Or eat sugar. Or drink alcohol. Some people love brussle sprouts, some can't eat them. Some people can run, some would die if they tried to run. I keep wanting to scream at people that we are not a one-size fits all world.
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Date: 2016-03-22 01:26 am (UTC)People can have a romantic relationship without sex if they are both ok with it. Also everyone assumes that everyone else is straight so that's annoying. My advice to people would be to not fall for peer pressure and false ideas of what is "normal". Do things for yourself not others.
So true. You can love someone without it being sexual. And not everyone is "sexual", some people are asexual. Sexuality like gender isn't binary or definitive necessarily, it can be spectrum. I know, because I've met people who fall all along it both online and off. And it's not necessarily stagnant either...some people can start out as heterosexual, become bisexual, then homosexual. For some it's about who they fall in love with and gender is irrelevant.
A friend told me recently that we're hard wired to categorize and pigeon hole people, to put labels on them and fit them into defined slots. This person is gay, this person is straight, this person is black, this one is white...etc.
But what if you are purple? Or bisexual? Or don't fit into a defined slot? What then? Most people don't...and are confused because they are trying to put themselves into a slot they can't quite fit into.
I remember getting fed up with Oprah once, because she went on and on about how if you had a lot of sex, you'd be happy. And the secret to happiness was lots of sex, and how studies had been done demonstrating that people who got laid more often were found to be happier. Seriously? No. I had a friend who had a lot of sex and was miserable.
I stopped paying attention to Oprah about ten-fifteen years ago -- because she has a tendency to preach about things she knows nothing about, making broad generalizations...based solely on her own limited experience on the topic.
Which to be fair, I think, is what a lot of people do.
The assumption that everyone experiences sex the same way annoys me. It's blantantly stupid if you think about it.
We don't experience anything else the same way, why would we experience it? I mean not everyone can digest bread, I can't. Or eat sugar. Or drink alcohol. Some people love brussle sprouts, some can't eat them. Some people can run, some would die if they tried to run. I keep wanting to scream at people that we are not a one-size fits all world.