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Titles are hard sometimes
I couldn't come up with a title. I kind of miss my daily pandemic entries, I could just put the day, and year - and that was that.
1.
Apparently Managers who went to the pizza party in Manhattan thrown by the head of the group, got congratulated on how great their team was doing on keeping to the schedule and pushing things forward. That we all adapted to change well.
BYT: "I was a proud mama. I consider you all my kids, and my kids were doing well."
ME (muttering to myself): you do realize that I'm ten-fifteen years older than you, right? And Babs is close to twenty.
"A" mentioned it today - and how it was in bad taste.
It should be noted that we're between 30-65. In a way it was reassuring, I'm not the only one with a bad case of foot in mouth disease.
Today, another co-worker told me that in his career, he's never seen anything this bad or this frakked up.
2. Masks - most folks aren't wearing them in the office any longer. Just me and a handful of other people. It's annoying. I have to share elevators and personal space with folks who don't have masks on. And they enter my cubicle without one, and I may not have mine on at the time.
I'm learning to not worry about it - but it is hard.
The homeless, while not as prevalent as before, are still in evidence at work. I found myself repeating in my head the phrase.."there but for the grace of god, go I" - it's a phrase my criminal procedural prof taught me in law school. He was also the head of Defender Project, which I worked for one summer. It's worth remembering when we judge others, I think.
3. Had a brief discussion with Gabe about the Will Smith thing.
ME: I find it difficult to judge Will - because I honestly want to smack a lot of people at the moment. (Not that I have, or would. I've only actually hit two people in my life - my brother - and quickly learned not to do that again. I was ten at the time. And having a brother will teach you not to do that. And an ex-boyfriend who would not stop criticizing me in bed - until 2 am in the morning, when I finally slugged him. It worked, he stopped. I was 21 at the time.)
Gabe: I was telling my son that this is a lesson - the moment Will slapped Chris Rock, he became the bad guy. The moment you become physical with another person - you become the bad guy.
And it hit me, that's why it's best not to. It's okay to fantasize about it or think about it. I'd like to smack my management. With a bat. But I'm just barking. I'd never do it. I'm not violent. I'm a pacifist, actually.
Against war and all types of violence - it just makes things worse. Gabe is right about that.
What Will Smith should have done is gotten up and taken Jada with him, and walked out in protest. Or after the routine was over, approached Rock privately and explained why what he was doing was not okay.
One of the reasons I adore romance novels - is the problems are resolved non-violently. And violence has consequences. Problems in a romance are resolved with love. Problems in a mystery or thriller are resolved with violence.
4. It's pouring at the moment. Thankful it held off until now. It was raining when I came home, but mostly just really windy. So windy - that I folded up the umbrella and dealt with the minor sprinkles - because the wind was breaking the umbrella. I've gone through more umbrellas because of that.
I was so frustrated and depressed by work - and the weather - that I came home and ate three pieces of chocolate. One before dinner and two after. The good news is I put the rest in the freezer, so it's unlikely I'll eat it. Chocolate covered marshmellow eggs don't exactly taste great frozen.
5. Good news, Biden's Supreme Court Nominee got confirmed to the US Supreme Court. So we have our first African-American Woman Supreme Court Justice.
Also, a moderate/liberal to the court. It doesn't make up for the six conservatives, but we're making some progress.
1.
Apparently Managers who went to the pizza party in Manhattan thrown by the head of the group, got congratulated on how great their team was doing on keeping to the schedule and pushing things forward. That we all adapted to change well.
BYT: "I was a proud mama. I consider you all my kids, and my kids were doing well."
ME (muttering to myself): you do realize that I'm ten-fifteen years older than you, right? And Babs is close to twenty.
"A" mentioned it today - and how it was in bad taste.
It should be noted that we're between 30-65. In a way it was reassuring, I'm not the only one with a bad case of foot in mouth disease.
Today, another co-worker told me that in his career, he's never seen anything this bad or this frakked up.
2. Masks - most folks aren't wearing them in the office any longer. Just me and a handful of other people. It's annoying. I have to share elevators and personal space with folks who don't have masks on. And they enter my cubicle without one, and I may not have mine on at the time.
I'm learning to not worry about it - but it is hard.
The homeless, while not as prevalent as before, are still in evidence at work. I found myself repeating in my head the phrase.."there but for the grace of god, go I" - it's a phrase my criminal procedural prof taught me in law school. He was also the head of Defender Project, which I worked for one summer. It's worth remembering when we judge others, I think.
3. Had a brief discussion with Gabe about the Will Smith thing.
ME: I find it difficult to judge Will - because I honestly want to smack a lot of people at the moment. (Not that I have, or would. I've only actually hit two people in my life - my brother - and quickly learned not to do that again. I was ten at the time. And having a brother will teach you not to do that. And an ex-boyfriend who would not stop criticizing me in bed - until 2 am in the morning, when I finally slugged him. It worked, he stopped. I was 21 at the time.)
Gabe: I was telling my son that this is a lesson - the moment Will slapped Chris Rock, he became the bad guy. The moment you become physical with another person - you become the bad guy.
And it hit me, that's why it's best not to. It's okay to fantasize about it or think about it. I'd like to smack my management. With a bat. But I'm just barking. I'd never do it. I'm not violent. I'm a pacifist, actually.
Against war and all types of violence - it just makes things worse. Gabe is right about that.
What Will Smith should have done is gotten up and taken Jada with him, and walked out in protest. Or after the routine was over, approached Rock privately and explained why what he was doing was not okay.
One of the reasons I adore romance novels - is the problems are resolved non-violently. And violence has consequences. Problems in a romance are resolved with love. Problems in a mystery or thriller are resolved with violence.
4. It's pouring at the moment. Thankful it held off until now. It was raining when I came home, but mostly just really windy. So windy - that I folded up the umbrella and dealt with the minor sprinkles - because the wind was breaking the umbrella. I've gone through more umbrellas because of that.
I was so frustrated and depressed by work - and the weather - that I came home and ate three pieces of chocolate. One before dinner and two after. The good news is I put the rest in the freezer, so it's unlikely I'll eat it. Chocolate covered marshmellow eggs don't exactly taste great frozen.
5. Good news, Biden's Supreme Court Nominee got confirmed to the US Supreme Court. So we have our first African-American Woman Supreme Court Justice.
Also, a moderate/liberal to the court. It doesn't make up for the six conservatives, but we're making some progress.
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Progress comes in small steps, hence the ongoing struggle. /-:
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This is an excellent point, and it would have been even more powerful because later when he won Best Actor, they'd have had to go through the awkwardness of not having him there to accept it. So the conversation would have ended up turning on what he wanted it to turn on, the question of whether taking jabs at people's physical characteristics is ever a good idea.
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So the conversation would have ended up turning on what he wanted it to turn on, the question of whether taking jabs at people's physical characteristics is ever a good idea.
Instead it turned on whether reacting with violence is ever a good idea. I get why he slapped him - because that's the emotional response or knee-jerk response. When someone insults you or your family, you slap them. Or back in the day, they slapped them with a white glove - and had a duel. (That's how Hamilton died, along with his son.)
But, it's not the smart approach. Getting up and leaving, is the smart approach.
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Maybe go to stage, take the mic away from Rock and explain to the whole audience that bullying is not acceptable behaviour. But it is very easy to come up with better solutions in hindsight, so Smith's action was acceptable. He stopped the bully.
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Chris Rock went on to a standing ovation at a comedy event in NYC the next week.
Multiple comedians have supported Rock.
Smith resigned from the Academy.
He didn't stop the bully - instead he made the bully the victim and the hero.
And he became the bad guy.
Violence solves nothing. There are always other ways - better ways. Note - that they were able to silence and cancel Smith without violence.
I get the desire to resort to violence - I feel it all the time. But it never works.
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The lack of masks is becoming more common, especially with businesses not requiring them. I've seen it go both ways for employees in retail positions- some are still wearing them and others aren't. I'm still keeping mine and am glad there are still a good amount of people also wearing them.
I saw someone else online suggest that Will and Jada should have left and make a statement that way. In this particular situation, you are right that hitting him took away his upper hand in the situation. It a shame that Chris Rock can play the victim now.
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Or the shape of the face? Large noses don't handle masks well, and narrow faces don't always either.
In this particular situation, you are right that hitting him took away his upper hand in the situation. It a shame that Chris Rock can play the victim now.
Worse, Rock can play the victim without doing anything - without saying a word. And if he doesn't press charges (he hasn't) or complain (hasn't) - he looks amazing. The other comics are upset on his behalf, as are the hosts, because they say things all the time - their routines are "insult" humor or "will offend" someone - and if a heckler came up and slapped them, then what? It's become about the slap and not what was said.