Mother has advised that I hang tough. Wales kind of echoed that advice.
I can only offer sympathy and the following - after my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer, and through her illness and chemo and finally losing her - I wasn't in a great place at work. And after she died, things didn't get a lot better - but I told myself I wasn't allowed to make ANY major life changing decisions of ANY type - for at least a year after she died. Because I wasn't trusting myself to be perfectly rational after losing her.
As it turned out - work *was* toxic during that time - but it got better (we got rid of the guy that made my life miserable) and my own situation changed. Obviously your work situation is different - but I think for me it was the right call to not make any big changes until I was through the worst of the grief and in a better place.
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Date: 2022-08-28 09:41 pm (UTC)I can only offer sympathy and the following - after my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer, and through her illness and chemo and finally losing her - I wasn't in a great place at work. And after she died, things didn't get a lot better - but I told myself I wasn't allowed to make ANY major life changing decisions of ANY type - for at least a year after she died. Because I wasn't trusting myself to be perfectly rational after losing her.
As it turned out - work *was* toxic during that time - but it got better (we got rid of the guy that made my life miserable) and my own situation changed. Obviously your work situation is different - but I think for me it was the right call to not make any big changes until I was through the worst of the grief and in a better place.
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