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shadowkatToday's epiphanies..(which I still struggle to spell, thank you spell-check):
* If you love the world, it loves you back, if you hate the world it hates you back. This is weirdly true of everything, I think?
* If I am spending a lot of time whinging or being critical of a program, book, musical work, etc meant for pleasure - then why am I watching it or reading it? And what am I getting out of whinging about it? Anything?
Either watch or don't - but find a reason to enjoy it and focus on that.
* If I take a task one step at a time, don't overthink it, or plan it out ahead of time or try to envision where it will lead - I find I feel no anxiety doing it, and rather enjoy it. Nor do I procrastinate.
* Sometimes it's a good idea to stope, pause and look at the sunshine, stare at a flower, or watch people.
* Don't let someone else's negativity or bad mood pull me down. That's their headspace and they are entitled to their own headspace and mood. Step out and away from it.
* Dogs are lovely creatures, take the time to look into one's eyes, pet and stroke it behind the ears, and say hello. But like with all animals, let it greet you first.
* Enjoy a cookie. Today I enjoyed a macroon - the sandwitch variety. It was lemon, and the tart lemon mixed with the sweet was rather heavenly. Small, compact. A bite sized treat.
Lovely day, bright blue sky, no clouds to really speak of. What some might call robin's egg blue. Tweeting birds. Dogwoods in bloom, along with daffodiles and crocuses. After church walked halfway to the promenade to eat a bite for lunch, and after the Artist's Way, walked down to Caroll after stopping in the grocery store - which is basically the size of a small boutique. It has aisles, but it is tiny. One gets used to it in NYC.
The Artist's Way was interesting. There's a lot of artists that go to my church (because, NY). One woman worked in film and television as a writer, specializing in serious drama. (She wouldn't tell us what she worked on, so I've no clue, she did have a lovely dog name Kia though. The other was our music director - who in his spare time creates jingles for commercials. He apparently is very good at 1990s or pre 90s Disney style jingles. Also he was publishing music arrangements he'd been doing since high school. And, he has a choral arrangement for Dylan's Times they are a Changing that has become very popular. He told me that the whole copyright issue for music was rather murky. An art teacher and visual artist - told us that she had become obsessed with photography lately, also music and dance. She's a contra dancer. By trade, she teaches oil painting. But her first love had been photography, and possibly film. She was thinking of videotaping people or filming them.
At the end of it, we played this game --- you mention something, and everyone who relates to it, or can relate to it - goes into the circle and high fives. They asked:
* Have you ever forgotten your age (yes, numerous times. When I was 55, I kept thinking I was 54 or 56. And now, I keep forgetting I'm fifty-six. I figure, if I repeat it enough, I will remember it. )
* Are you your own worst enemy (everyone came into the circle)
* I kissed a girl and I liked it. (five people came into the circle - people asked the guy standing next to me, who was married to a woman, and had kids, if he had never kissed a girl and liked it? Because he forgot to go in. I did not go in. Women - so far - have done zip for me - in the romantic sense of the world. There might be someone out there who does, but I've yet to meet them.)
I can't remember the others. I'm slightly sleep deprived. Couldn't fall to sleep until around 2 AM, and woke up at 6:45 Am, went back to sleep, woke up at 8:20 something.
***
The Unitarian Universalist Society reminded me again today of why I joined it and go there, as opposed to other houses of worship. I suppose I needed reminding on some level.
It's radically welcoming,loves to question authority, question itslef and in fact the particularities of itself. As I told mother last night (who is a semi-devout Catholic) that I had problems with the Catholic Church and other churches (conventional ones) that I simply could not resolve. We had irreconcilable differences. My parents and I were not in disagreement over them, they just were able to handwave them in regards to the church and I cannot.
I can't go to a house of worship or that poses itself as a spiritual community which excludes people based on creed, belief, sexual orientation, gender identification, or race. I have issues about exclusivity. I've left a lot of organizations in my lifetime over this. I'll stay for a bit - until I realize one of two things 1)it's not going to change, and 2) there's zip I can do about it, and 3) sticking with it is just going to make me miserable. At the end of the day, we kind of have to be true to ourselves or who we really are and our values, particularly in regards to spirituality.
My workplace is similarily radically inclusive - to the chagrin of quite a few of my co-workers actually. They can leave if they have issues with it.
Apparently it's not a big enough deal to them - to forgo salary.
So is New York State for that matter.
I basically left all the places that weren't. Like I said? I have issues with exclusivity. It's no started for me. A former Minister at this UU church figured that out about me way back in 2011. He looked at me once and said - "After listening to you a few times, I'm thinking you have major issues with exclusivity - don't you? While we're pretty much inclusive, we do tend to exclude the far right, and the properity Christians, ie. the Rich Warrens..." My response was that was not a problem for me, I tended to draw the line at those groups myself. And avoided them like the plague.
* If you love the world, it loves you back, if you hate the world it hates you back. This is weirdly true of everything, I think?
* If I am spending a lot of time whinging or being critical of a program, book, musical work, etc meant for pleasure - then why am I watching it or reading it? And what am I getting out of whinging about it? Anything?
Either watch or don't - but find a reason to enjoy it and focus on that.
* If I take a task one step at a time, don't overthink it, or plan it out ahead of time or try to envision where it will lead - I find I feel no anxiety doing it, and rather enjoy it. Nor do I procrastinate.
* Sometimes it's a good idea to stope, pause and look at the sunshine, stare at a flower, or watch people.
* Don't let someone else's negativity or bad mood pull me down. That's their headspace and they are entitled to their own headspace and mood. Step out and away from it.
* Dogs are lovely creatures, take the time to look into one's eyes, pet and stroke it behind the ears, and say hello. But like with all animals, let it greet you first.
* Enjoy a cookie. Today I enjoyed a macroon - the sandwitch variety. It was lemon, and the tart lemon mixed with the sweet was rather heavenly. Small, compact. A bite sized treat.
Lovely day, bright blue sky, no clouds to really speak of. What some might call robin's egg blue. Tweeting birds. Dogwoods in bloom, along with daffodiles and crocuses. After church walked halfway to the promenade to eat a bite for lunch, and after the Artist's Way, walked down to Caroll after stopping in the grocery store - which is basically the size of a small boutique. It has aisles, but it is tiny. One gets used to it in NYC.
The Artist's Way was interesting. There's a lot of artists that go to my church (because, NY). One woman worked in film and television as a writer, specializing in serious drama. (She wouldn't tell us what she worked on, so I've no clue, she did have a lovely dog name Kia though. The other was our music director - who in his spare time creates jingles for commercials. He apparently is very good at 1990s or pre 90s Disney style jingles. Also he was publishing music arrangements he'd been doing since high school. And, he has a choral arrangement for Dylan's Times they are a Changing that has become very popular. He told me that the whole copyright issue for music was rather murky. An art teacher and visual artist - told us that she had become obsessed with photography lately, also music and dance. She's a contra dancer. By trade, she teaches oil painting. But her first love had been photography, and possibly film. She was thinking of videotaping people or filming them.
At the end of it, we played this game --- you mention something, and everyone who relates to it, or can relate to it - goes into the circle and high fives. They asked:
* Have you ever forgotten your age (yes, numerous times. When I was 55, I kept thinking I was 54 or 56. And now, I keep forgetting I'm fifty-six. I figure, if I repeat it enough, I will remember it. )
* Are you your own worst enemy (everyone came into the circle)
* I kissed a girl and I liked it. (five people came into the circle - people asked the guy standing next to me, who was married to a woman, and had kids, if he had never kissed a girl and liked it? Because he forgot to go in. I did not go in. Women - so far - have done zip for me - in the romantic sense of the world. There might be someone out there who does, but I've yet to meet them.)
I can't remember the others. I'm slightly sleep deprived. Couldn't fall to sleep until around 2 AM, and woke up at 6:45 Am, went back to sleep, woke up at 8:20 something.
***
The Unitarian Universalist Society reminded me again today of why I joined it and go there, as opposed to other houses of worship. I suppose I needed reminding on some level.
It's radically welcoming,loves to question authority, question itslef and in fact the particularities of itself. As I told mother last night (who is a semi-devout Catholic) that I had problems with the Catholic Church and other churches (conventional ones) that I simply could not resolve. We had irreconcilable differences. My parents and I were not in disagreement over them, they just were able to handwave them in regards to the church and I cannot.
I can't go to a house of worship or that poses itself as a spiritual community which excludes people based on creed, belief, sexual orientation, gender identification, or race. I have issues about exclusivity. I've left a lot of organizations in my lifetime over this. I'll stay for a bit - until I realize one of two things 1)it's not going to change, and 2) there's zip I can do about it, and 3) sticking with it is just going to make me miserable. At the end of the day, we kind of have to be true to ourselves or who we really are and our values, particularly in regards to spirituality.
My workplace is similarily radically inclusive - to the chagrin of quite a few of my co-workers actually. They can leave if they have issues with it.
Apparently it's not a big enough deal to them - to forgo salary.
So is New York State for that matter.
I basically left all the places that weren't. Like I said? I have issues with exclusivity. It's no started for me. A former Minister at this UU church figured that out about me way back in 2011. He looked at me once and said - "After listening to you a few times, I'm thinking you have major issues with exclusivity - don't you? While we're pretty much inclusive, we do tend to exclude the far right, and the properity Christians, ie. the Rich Warrens..." My response was that was not a problem for me, I tended to draw the line at those groups myself. And avoided them like the plague.