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If you've friended me at any point - you may have noticed that I do not
tell you what this journal is about or include a bio. Basically, because
I figure the title says it all - as does the journal. I spontaneously write whatever pops into my head. As for friending? Well too complicated and none of your business. Did just find and friend solitude1056 - who I think may be the same one from Atpo, whom I've missed. I may not always agree with the writer, but always find them fascinating. Course they have a filtered journal and since I haven't a clue how that works, I may or may not be able to read their posts.
Filtered journals. Friending. Reminds me of a conversation I had with a friend last night - the friend stated that in a way conversing on livejournal was *safer* than talking to ones friends or conversing with people. Talking to strangers was safer. No judging. Oh they judge, but you don't know what their judgements are. And if you don't like them? Ban that person forever. Or delete. In livejournal you are more or less writing with a net. No fears of rejection. (Not that it doesn't occur, just that the impact is somewhat lessened.) Not sure if this friend is right or wrong. Been pondering it off and on all day. Is it safer writing and posting messages to strangers than emails and letters to friends? Is it safer posting on a discussion board under a pseudonyme than in livejournal with the journal locked? Or more dangerous?
Can such a thing be determined? Or even explained to someone who doesn't do it? I have quite a few friends who think I'm a tad nuts for having a livejournal or just can't comprehend why I do it. And I've given up trying to explain it to people. You either get it or you don't. Sort of like reading comic books and watching BTVS - you either get or you don't.
Speaking of BTVS - re-watched I Robot You Jane last night and I caught a theme that I hadn't before. Possibly because I now have seen the entire series. At any rate, the episode is an interesting take on relationships. The desire for love. How we search for it. And coupled with Teacher's Pet, Angel and Never Kill A Boy on The First Date - it emphasizes the differences between Buffy/Xander and Willow. Willow seems to be attracted to the person. How the person relates to her. Her friendship with them. Their conversations. She has a huge crush on Xander, but clearly has known Xander for years. The crush is based on their time together, their friendship. Xander, meanwhile, has fallen head over heels for the new girl, Buffy, whom he just met. His crush is based on what she looks like, how she dresses, how she acts. Not on who she is inside, he can't possibly know that having just met her. Buffy's crush is not on Xander, who is becoming a friend and she sees day-in-and day-out, although she likewise has just met him, but on the dreamy, mysterious, incredibly hot Angel. (A guy that every woman fawns over - heck the writers picked him not for his acting ability but because the women on the production staff melted in his presence. )Even Owen in NKABFD- Buffy picks for his looks and romantic demeanor. Willow is the only one who consistently chooses the person inside.
Oz and Tara both grow on Willow, she falls for them over time based on conversations, commonality of interest. Willow falls for the person, regardless of gender, height, hair color, looks, etc. Which may be why it was so important to the writers to have Willow in a happy relationship at the end of the series. Or to be the one who found true love, because of all of them, she was the only one who seemed to know how to find it? Interesting angle to see the series from. I think the theme may have worked a tad better though if they'd had more time to develop the relationship between Kennedy and Willow, and Kennedy hadn't been a last minute replacement for the planned Tara arc in S7. But overall? It works. I think.
tell you what this journal is about or include a bio. Basically, because
I figure the title says it all - as does the journal. I spontaneously write whatever pops into my head. As for friending? Well too complicated and none of your business. Did just find and friend solitude1056 - who I think may be the same one from Atpo, whom I've missed. I may not always agree with the writer, but always find them fascinating. Course they have a filtered journal and since I haven't a clue how that works, I may or may not be able to read their posts.
Filtered journals. Friending. Reminds me of a conversation I had with a friend last night - the friend stated that in a way conversing on livejournal was *safer* than talking to ones friends or conversing with people. Talking to strangers was safer. No judging. Oh they judge, but you don't know what their judgements are. And if you don't like them? Ban that person forever. Or delete. In livejournal you are more or less writing with a net. No fears of rejection. (Not that it doesn't occur, just that the impact is somewhat lessened.) Not sure if this friend is right or wrong. Been pondering it off and on all day. Is it safer writing and posting messages to strangers than emails and letters to friends? Is it safer posting on a discussion board under a pseudonyme than in livejournal with the journal locked? Or more dangerous?
Can such a thing be determined? Or even explained to someone who doesn't do it? I have quite a few friends who think I'm a tad nuts for having a livejournal or just can't comprehend why I do it. And I've given up trying to explain it to people. You either get it or you don't. Sort of like reading comic books and watching BTVS - you either get or you don't.
Speaking of BTVS - re-watched I Robot You Jane last night and I caught a theme that I hadn't before. Possibly because I now have seen the entire series. At any rate, the episode is an interesting take on relationships. The desire for love. How we search for it. And coupled with Teacher's Pet, Angel and Never Kill A Boy on The First Date - it emphasizes the differences between Buffy/Xander and Willow. Willow seems to be attracted to the person. How the person relates to her. Her friendship with them. Their conversations. She has a huge crush on Xander, but clearly has known Xander for years. The crush is based on their time together, their friendship. Xander, meanwhile, has fallen head over heels for the new girl, Buffy, whom he just met. His crush is based on what she looks like, how she dresses, how she acts. Not on who she is inside, he can't possibly know that having just met her. Buffy's crush is not on Xander, who is becoming a friend and she sees day-in-and day-out, although she likewise has just met him, but on the dreamy, mysterious, incredibly hot Angel. (A guy that every woman fawns over - heck the writers picked him not for his acting ability but because the women on the production staff melted in his presence. )Even Owen in NKABFD- Buffy picks for his looks and romantic demeanor. Willow is the only one who consistently chooses the person inside.
Oz and Tara both grow on Willow, she falls for them over time based on conversations, commonality of interest. Willow falls for the person, regardless of gender, height, hair color, looks, etc. Which may be why it was so important to the writers to have Willow in a happy relationship at the end of the series. Or to be the one who found true love, because of all of them, she was the only one who seemed to know how to find it? Interesting angle to see the series from. I think the theme may have worked a tad better though if they'd had more time to develop the relationship between Kennedy and Willow, and Kennedy hadn't been a last minute replacement for the planned Tara arc in S7. But overall? It works. I think.