June Question a Day Memage and What Comforts You

I'm far behind on the June Question a Day Meme...so this is me, catching up:

7. When was the last time you thoroughly dusted and polished your furniture?

My furniture isn't really dust-able? It's cushioned. But I did dust the shelves, tv stand etc, last weekend.

8. Have you ever been fishing?

Yes. The appeal is completely lost on me. I feel sorry for the fish. I really don't like looking my food in the eye or seeing it caught. I'm more gatherer than hunter. Also, I'm not a fan of most fish, so there's that.
Did it once with my brother and father - in the lake in front of the Grand Tetons. My brother finally caught a fish, but had to throw it back, after it had been half-suffocated to death, because it wasn't the type of fish we could eat. I forget the name. And I remember thinking - that poor fish. I'd rather learn to paddle board (I don't paddle board).

9. Is there something that someone close to you does which really irritates you, but you’ve never said anything to them about it?

If it really irritates me - then I will tell them. Rarely does any good, so not entirely sure why I bother? Half the time, I just hand-wave it - because it rarely does any good. Some things folks can't help doing, they aren't aware of it and it is just them? Pointing it out doesn't help or change it, and it just hurts them to do so. Also we all have ticks and irritable behaviors that others must endure.

There are other things - that people can choose not to do and stop doing, or at the very least while others are around, which I've noticed pointing out to them - helps. Such as my mother played a very noisy video game version of Mahjon when I visited her last year, and she switched to Sudoku which was quieter, when I visited her in the Spring of this year.

10. Have you ever made mayonnaise from scratch?

Yes. I'm not really a fan of mayonnaise though. And don't use it at all on anything. But I have done it.
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Adding a question which is not part of the meme:

What is your current comfort television series or book series, which you've seen multiple times, or read multiple times, but continue to engage with?
[Note - not a new discovery, but something you've seen more than once, and go back to watch every few years? Or a book series, which you've read multiple times, listened to on audiobook or even graphic audio - more than once?]

Television Show: Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

Why? It's a series about how tough life is, but you can't give up, and it's worth it to keep trying no matter what. Also about fighting your own demons. And done with metaphors. I think metaphorically - so this works for me. And it has a very strong female protagonist who is the central point of view. It shows how people's relationships evolve and change with time, friendships change and don't necessarily always last, and loved ones die or change and move away. And it's important to help each other and others no matter how scary it might be. Helps that I love all the characters, and adore urban fantasy as a genre.

Book Series: Kate Daniels Magic Series by Illona Andrews (a writing couple)

Why? It's also a series about how tough life is, but you can't give up...and features a bad ass female protagonist. It's among the few that shows how relationships evolve and change, friendships don't always last for various reasons, and how it is important to help others, no matter how scary it might be. [See above.]

Do you have anything that you return to over and over again for comfort? Be it a book series, a television series, movie, or song or album?

Buffy Rewatch - Season 3, Toxic Love and the Toxic Male

I've been re-watching Buffy, which I hadn't watched since roughly 2012? And I've picked up on various things that I didn't previously. Also, I'm astonished at how well it holds up for a series that aired between 1997-2003.

I've finished S2, and am into S3, which is a lot better than I remembered.
It doesn't have as many dud episodes, or skippable ones like S1 and 2 did.
S1 - the stand-a-lones were better, and S2 - the arc episodes were better. S3 - manages to hit the perfect balance between the two or it appears to, only six episodes in, but no duds yet. It also manages to do the same thing S2 did - which is bring in entertaining and creepy villains in Trick and the Mayor. I think they finally gathered together a good writing team - that gelled. With the additions of Jane Espenson and Doug Petrie to the mix.

Takeaways?

Beauty and the Beasts weirdly echoes Beneathe Me in S7. In both episodes, we have Buffy discover that the wicked vampire she was having an affair with, has returned somewhat crazy but with a soul. (Just differently.) And in both episodes there's a side story about a couple that is similar to Buffy's relationship to that vampire, but worse.
( analysis )

Xander, can you be a bigger jerk? Apparently so. I hadn't realized how committed the writers were to exploring the incel theme with Xander until this rewatch. People mentioned it over the years, but I just wasn't that focused on Xander or handwaved it? Also, I didn't like Cordelia previously, now, I kind of do. If you really dislike Cordelia - it's hard to see how abusive Xander truly is.
( analysis - if you are a Xander fan, you may want to skip, although I don't think there are any reading this any longer or Buffy fans for that matter - so not an issue )

* Cordelia is actually interesting? I'm surprised. But she is. And realistic. She's self-absorbed like well most people. And very much what Buffy might have been without the slayage - which the show always kind of got across.
She doesn't really have friends, but I'm not sure anyone truly does? Which is also interesting.

* Faith - I like better than I remembered. They are smart to not overuse the character, and go with less is more. I feel for Faith - Faith seems to care more about Buffy than Buffy cares about Faith. And genuinely wants to be friends with Buffy - but Buffy is distracted by Angel. It's an interesting writer choice that Cordy and Buffy fight off the people during slayerfest, while Faith goes to the prom by herself.

I can see why Faith eventually turns against Buffy and envies Buffy, part of this is on Buffy, Giles and the others. They cut Faith out in various ways. And are far too obsessed with their own romantic entanglements to see her or anyone else for that matter.

Romantic love (which I think is highly overrated) can often isolate, and alienate others - pushing people out of one's life. Romantic love that survives and becomes something greater such as friendship and companionship - brings people into one's life, as opposed to shutting them out. I think that is the test of a good relationship - does it bring in people or shut them out?

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Not doing much today, outside of recovering from an illness. Back to work on Monday. It's sunny and windy outside, and in the low 80s. I may work on my book a bit, and maybe a little on my painting.