I'm learning to just walk away. And not respond at all. That tends to stop it dead. And after a while everyone forgets about it. Easier said than done, since the impulse to correct someone when I know they are wrong is extremely difficult to resist. But honestly? Why? I've been asking myself this lately. What do I gain by calling folks out or correcting them? Anything?
I learned something recently that I hadn't realized, and can't remember who said it - but:
People tend to remember how something made them feel - not what was said. They don't remember the correction - they remember how they felt. So if I get in a heated argument with someone, and they leave with bruised feelings or I do, or we both do, that's what we will remember from the interaction. I have to be more careful in how I interact with folks - and how I phrase things. Which is difficult for me, because I have a tendency to get either snarky or condescending when I'm irritable, annoyed or angry. Which is probably why it's not a good idea to get on social media when I'm feeling any of those emotions.
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Date: 2024-06-20 02:23 pm (UTC)I learned something recently that I hadn't realized, and can't remember who said it - but:
People tend to remember how something made them feel - not what was said. They don't remember the correction - they remember how they felt. So if I get in a heated argument with someone, and they leave with bruised feelings or I do, or we both do, that's what we will remember from the interaction. I have to be more careful in how I interact with folks - and how I phrase things. Which is difficult for me, because I have a tendency to get either snarky or condescending when I'm irritable, annoyed or angry. Which is probably why it's not a good idea to get on social media when I'm feeling any of those emotions.