Yes, that's my take as well. If you step back from it, and look at the thread objectively...everyone is to blame. Sure someone lost their temper first, but...
And I say that fully aware that I've well, been there done that, myself. In the heat of the moment...you can find yourself saying really nasty things which can't be retracted. Then you find yourself caught in a cycle of defending yourself and justifying what you said - because you know, stating, I fucked up or I was wrong, so sorry, sort of goes against the grain particularly when you still want to strangle the other person or string them up by their toenails as the case may be. What usually happens is it derails past the point of no return, someone gets banned, someone gets deleted, and everybody hopes the whole thing will be forgotten in due course. Because, everyone has a bit of egg on their face and is embarrassed.
What's reassuring to me at least is I'm not alone in doing this or it's rather normal. We live stressful lives, we're frustrated, and lonely and crap happens in our lives...and here's this nitwity person on the net we've never met and don't know ...and well...
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Date: 2012-07-25 03:03 am (UTC)And I say that fully aware that I've well, been there done that, myself.
In the heat of the moment...you can find yourself saying really nasty things which can't be retracted. Then you find yourself caught in a cycle of defending yourself and justifying what you said - because you know, stating, I fucked up or I was wrong, so sorry, sort of goes against the grain particularly when you still want to strangle the other person or string them up by their toenails as the case may be. What usually happens is it derails past the point of no return, someone gets banned, someone gets deleted, and everybody hopes the whole thing will be forgotten in due course. Because, everyone has a bit of egg on their face and is embarrassed.
What's reassuring to me at least is I'm not alone in doing this or it's rather normal. We live stressful lives, we're frustrated, and lonely and crap happens in our lives...and here's this nitwity person on the net we've never met and don't know ...and well...