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shadowkat1. I'm not sure I can watch the film Boy Erased, with Russell Crow and Nicole Kidman, about parents who send their son to Conversion Therapy. I find the whole topic triggering. Sexual orientation isn't a preference.
Lesbian Friend: How do you orient?
Me: I'm straight. (Although that's not exactly accurate...heterosexual with kinky leanings is more accurate - which may be queer or ally.)
Friend: Have you ever kissed a girl?(disbelieving)
Me (grimaces): No. Although, it's not like I've been that successful with men. Sometimes I think if I were a lesbian or preferred women, I'd be better off.
Friend: Having just come out of a broken relationship -- I can pretty much tell you not so much. They have their problems too.
Me: Had a lot of friends in college who were lesbians, although they hadn't come out yet. When did you?
Friend: Oh, you mean, when did I figure it out, or when did I come out?
Me: Figure it out?
Friend: Early on, sometime around junior high. But I didn't come out until college.
Me: They didn't figure it out until after college or during. I figured it out before they did.
Friend looks at me.
Me: It was a pattern -- they'd all go on and on about their sexual encounters and their boyfriends, often in graphic detail and want to know about mine. And, well it's not something heterosexual women do...hard to explain -
Friend: They were over-compensating -- role-playing? Trying too hard?
Me: Exactly. Also they kept checking out women in a way that I just didn't. One friend broke my heart, she was born-again Christian and a lesbian, but in deep denial and felt she was horrible for feeling this way.
Friend: Did she ever work it out?
ME: No clue. We went our separate ways.
Friend: How'd you know?
Me: She confessed to me that she was in love with a woman. (Not me.)
It bothers me intensely that people were hurt just because they happened to be born to love one or both or different genders than was "acceptable" by our sick twisted culture. I saw too many friends hurt and destroyed by this in the 1980s and 1990s. So I have a zero tolerance policy for homophobia or anti-gay sentiments. If it were up to me the people responsible for conversion therapy would get put in jail and/or punished in some severe way. They tortured people to benefit themselves and their sick religious egos.
So, trigger movie. Although I think it needs to be seen.
2. The Gifted -- is slow. This series has serious pacing issues. I do not know why. I think it's focusing why too much on everyone angsting over the nitwits who joined the evil mutants. I'm at the point in which I no longer care about the whiny nitwits who joined the evil mutants. Meanwhile we have the bereft cop wandering about obsessing over the mutants who allegedly died in Atlanta (end of last season), and Mr. Strucker exhibiting inconvenient powers.
How hard is it to have a fun X-men series?
Speaking of the X-men, their creator, Stan Lee is dead at 95.
To be honest, I was surprised he was still hanging in there. But will miss him. He created my favorite superhero team.
3. New Amsterdam is comforting. It's interesting that comforting shows and medical procedurals are at the top of the ratings at the moment. As opposed to less comforting and more violent series.
I can't watch the pure anti-hero series any longer. Disenfranchised nasty old white guys who kill people remind me too much of well the Doofus, so I can't watch. I have a feeling I wouldn't have been able to watch Breaking Bad now. During Obama, not a problem. During our present situation -- a definite problem. Have the same problem with political shows. Although I might attempt the last season of House of Cards.
Lesbian Friend: How do you orient?
Me: I'm straight. (Although that's not exactly accurate...heterosexual with kinky leanings is more accurate - which may be queer or ally.)
Friend: Have you ever kissed a girl?(disbelieving)
Me (grimaces): No. Although, it's not like I've been that successful with men. Sometimes I think if I were a lesbian or preferred women, I'd be better off.
Friend: Having just come out of a broken relationship -- I can pretty much tell you not so much. They have their problems too.
Me: Had a lot of friends in college who were lesbians, although they hadn't come out yet. When did you?
Friend: Oh, you mean, when did I figure it out, or when did I come out?
Me: Figure it out?
Friend: Early on, sometime around junior high. But I didn't come out until college.
Me: They didn't figure it out until after college or during. I figured it out before they did.
Friend looks at me.
Me: It was a pattern -- they'd all go on and on about their sexual encounters and their boyfriends, often in graphic detail and want to know about mine. And, well it's not something heterosexual women do...hard to explain -
Friend: They were over-compensating -- role-playing? Trying too hard?
Me: Exactly. Also they kept checking out women in a way that I just didn't. One friend broke my heart, she was born-again Christian and a lesbian, but in deep denial and felt she was horrible for feeling this way.
Friend: Did she ever work it out?
ME: No clue. We went our separate ways.
Friend: How'd you know?
Me: She confessed to me that she was in love with a woman. (Not me.)
It bothers me intensely that people were hurt just because they happened to be born to love one or both or different genders than was "acceptable" by our sick twisted culture. I saw too many friends hurt and destroyed by this in the 1980s and 1990s. So I have a zero tolerance policy for homophobia or anti-gay sentiments. If it were up to me the people responsible for conversion therapy would get put in jail and/or punished in some severe way. They tortured people to benefit themselves and their sick religious egos.
So, trigger movie. Although I think it needs to be seen.
2. The Gifted -- is slow. This series has serious pacing issues. I do not know why. I think it's focusing why too much on everyone angsting over the nitwits who joined the evil mutants. I'm at the point in which I no longer care about the whiny nitwits who joined the evil mutants. Meanwhile we have the bereft cop wandering about obsessing over the mutants who allegedly died in Atlanta (end of last season), and Mr. Strucker exhibiting inconvenient powers.
How hard is it to have a fun X-men series?
Speaking of the X-men, their creator, Stan Lee is dead at 95.
To be honest, I was surprised he was still hanging in there. But will miss him. He created my favorite superhero team.
3. New Amsterdam is comforting. It's interesting that comforting shows and medical procedurals are at the top of the ratings at the moment. As opposed to less comforting and more violent series.
I can't watch the pure anti-hero series any longer. Disenfranchised nasty old white guys who kill people remind me too much of well the Doofus, so I can't watch. I have a feeling I wouldn't have been able to watch Breaking Bad now. During Obama, not a problem. During our present situation -- a definite problem. Have the same problem with political shows. Although I might attempt the last season of House of Cards.