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shadowkat1. No specific plot spoilers in the review, but I’m going to allow people to post spoilers in the comments, so if you’re one of the three people in the world who haven’t seen the film yet, you might want to skip the comments until you do.
From John Scalzi's non-spoilery review.
I'm one, cjlasky is two, not sure who the third is.
I'm amazed by the people who went to see it and do not like superhero flicks and don't find the Marvel films entertaining. One co-worker liked it better than she expected, she didn't go to sleep. I asked why see something you aren't into?
Chidi: Oh I see a lot of films I know I won't like.
Me: Why?
Chidi: if someone asks, I just go. I don't go by myself.
Me: Again, why?
Chidi (he shrugs).
I've reached the age in which I don't read, watch or listen to entertainment things that I don't want to or like. I really don't care what anyone thinks about this.
It seems such a waste of time to do something for pleasure -- that well, isn't?
I get seeing films for information reasons or to learn -- that's different. But this is a blockbuster superhero flick that is part of a long-running series.
Cousin: My daughter who hates Marvel films and refuses to see them, agreed to see Avengers:Endgame with a friend not me.
Me: I feel sorry for the friend. Seriously you dodged a bullet there. She's going to spend the whole movie asking who is who, and what is happening, and why. And then afterwards tear it apart. Why did she agree to see it?
Cousin: I don't know.
Me: Why would you see a three and half hour movie that you know ahead of time that you won't enjoy? And pay $16-17 for it? More importantly, why would you invite someone to see a movie with you -- that you know for a fact won't like it? Or hasn't seen any of the other films? Seems pointless.
This makes no sense to me. People are insanely illogical. I'm beginning to understand why Spock got so annoyed in Star Trek. [It occurred to me that I'm being very judgemental here. But I'm having troubles wrapping my head around this. Why go see or do something you don't like? And why would you ask someone to do that? Wouldn't it make more sense to pick something you both like? For example? I see superhero flicks with movie buddy, and go to art museums with Wales. And nice restaurants with MD, whenever she's in town.)
Seriously folks, if you are that curious? Wait for it to come out on streaming or On Demand. Cheaper. And you can take bathroom breaks and fast-forward.
2. Found out finally what RPX is. Goes to show you, if you ask enough people, you will find out.
RPX is the Regal Prime Experience. It's NOT 3D.
Me: So what is RPX? Is it worth it?
Co-worker: it's a bigger screen, and HD -- so better picture. And sound. Plus the seating is slightly nicer.
Me: Is it Imax?
Co-worker: Not that big.
Me: Is it 3D?
Co-worker: No.
Me: Good, I don't want to do 3D -- not for this type of movie. Doctor Strange -- I'd have considered it for.
Co-worker: Yeah. That's for Star Wars.. actually 4 D is for Star Wars.
Me: There's a 4D???
Co-worker: Yep, you can smell, feel, see, and hear everything.
Me: Really? Okay, I'm not sure I want to smell and feel people dying. I'll save that for a more upbeat picture.
Is it just me or are movie theaters getting desperate? I can sort of see why -- I have a 55 inch 4 K UHD television that is like having a movie screen in my living room. I don't have to go to the movies. I can get the experience in the comforts of my living room without the annoyances. However, I do want to see Avengers: Endgame in the theater -- because I want to see it with people, and I'm not willing to wait a year for it to come out on demand.
3. Watching American Idol -- out of curiousity, will state that this group is better than average. I'm rooting for the music teacher. He's interesting and the dishwasher. But I don't hold out much hope.
Oh good, the dishwasher got in. The music teacher better get in! Just saying. Oh dear, the music teacher didn't get in. Sigh.
But the judges can save them. Probably happened as rule change after Jennifer Hudson got voted off years ago.
Which is why these things are hard to take too seriously.
Oh dear, they saved the girl, who was boring and I didn't bother listening to. Which is why I don't tend to watch these shows. I'm always annoyed by the choices of the judges and viewers. Oh well, at least the dishwasher got in.
4. Had an epithany of sorts today. (Outside of the fact that I apparently can't spell the word epithany.) Which is that stress and anxiety and fear tend to make me really angry at whomever is causing it. Today it was a project manager and management, I tend to fight back.
I informed my mother of this over the phone. It did not come at all as surprise to her. Except I'm not entirely sure she gets the difference between being ordered to do something you don't want to do, and being stressed out about it? Occasionally, it becomes clear to me that my mother and I do not always think the same way.
Mother: Yes, pushing you in a direction you don't want to go makes you very angry.
Me: Actually that's not what I'm talking about --
Mother: Like whenever I ask you to go see your brother -
Me: Not this again.
Mother: You get mad at me. And stick in your heels.
Me: Because you will not drop it.
Mother: I've dropped it.
Me:Then why do you keep bringing up?
Mother: You should go see him.
Me: You don't understand -- it's not that easy --
Mother: No, I do. I had similar issues with my sister, we had a break of sorts, and she resented me but we got over it finally and --
Me: Not the same. We don't get along that well, and one or two hours are fine -- but I'd have to stay with him...and he always has friends there that I don't get along well with and --
Mother: I didn't want to get into it.
ME: You brought it up.
Mother: Just as an example.
Me: Sigh.
(I like control -- I go visit him, there is none. I'm stuck. And dependent on him. It's not like when he was living in the City -- and I could hop over there for an hour or two. Now? I'd have to stay with him, and depend on him picking me up, putting me up for the night, and taking me back to the train. Plus it is expensive going up there...the train costs over a $100. Also, he's a BROTHER, not a SISTER. There is a DIFFERENCE. Opposite sex sibling relationships are far harder to navigate than same-sex ones, my mother does not get this. She was raised with sisters. My father was raised with brothers. They don't understand at all. Although my father seems to be slightly more understanding on this point than my mother -- but I'm more like my father in regards to visiting people. We're both territorial and despise imposing on anyone for any reason.)
My mother will not leave me alone about this. She finds a way to work into over half of our conversations. She's like a dog with a frigging bone. My brother is far better at shutting her down than I am. She talks about something he doesn't like, he just stops talking to her, then changes the subject. This is a tactic that I suck at.
Mainly because I think it is rude. And inconsiderate of the other person. And hate it when people do it to me. And worry about how they feel about it. I get that the better approach is most likely his and when people do it to me -- I follow their lead and let them change the topic. Actually my mother has done this to me, most of my life. He probably gets it from her.
In short, as much as I love her, occasionally my mother drives me crazy. I'm thinking this may be true of all mothers? Sometimes, I'm very glad she lives far away and I can hang up on her.
From John Scalzi's non-spoilery review.
I'm one, cjlasky is two, not sure who the third is.
I'm amazed by the people who went to see it and do not like superhero flicks and don't find the Marvel films entertaining. One co-worker liked it better than she expected, she didn't go to sleep. I asked why see something you aren't into?
Chidi: Oh I see a lot of films I know I won't like.
Me: Why?
Chidi: if someone asks, I just go. I don't go by myself.
Me: Again, why?
Chidi (he shrugs).
I've reached the age in which I don't read, watch or listen to entertainment things that I don't want to or like. I really don't care what anyone thinks about this.
It seems such a waste of time to do something for pleasure -- that well, isn't?
I get seeing films for information reasons or to learn -- that's different. But this is a blockbuster superhero flick that is part of a long-running series.
Cousin: My daughter who hates Marvel films and refuses to see them, agreed to see Avengers:Endgame with a friend not me.
Me: I feel sorry for the friend. Seriously you dodged a bullet there. She's going to spend the whole movie asking who is who, and what is happening, and why. And then afterwards tear it apart. Why did she agree to see it?
Cousin: I don't know.
Me: Why would you see a three and half hour movie that you know ahead of time that you won't enjoy? And pay $16-17 for it? More importantly, why would you invite someone to see a movie with you -- that you know for a fact won't like it? Or hasn't seen any of the other films? Seems pointless.
This makes no sense to me. People are insanely illogical. I'm beginning to understand why Spock got so annoyed in Star Trek. [It occurred to me that I'm being very judgemental here. But I'm having troubles wrapping my head around this. Why go see or do something you don't like? And why would you ask someone to do that? Wouldn't it make more sense to pick something you both like? For example? I see superhero flicks with movie buddy, and go to art museums with Wales. And nice restaurants with MD, whenever she's in town.)
Seriously folks, if you are that curious? Wait for it to come out on streaming or On Demand. Cheaper. And you can take bathroom breaks and fast-forward.
2. Found out finally what RPX is. Goes to show you, if you ask enough people, you will find out.
RPX is the Regal Prime Experience. It's NOT 3D.
Me: So what is RPX? Is it worth it?
Co-worker: it's a bigger screen, and HD -- so better picture. And sound. Plus the seating is slightly nicer.
Me: Is it Imax?
Co-worker: Not that big.
Me: Is it 3D?
Co-worker: No.
Me: Good, I don't want to do 3D -- not for this type of movie. Doctor Strange -- I'd have considered it for.
Co-worker: Yeah. That's for Star Wars.. actually 4 D is for Star Wars.
Me: There's a 4D???
Co-worker: Yep, you can smell, feel, see, and hear everything.
Me: Really? Okay, I'm not sure I want to smell and feel people dying. I'll save that for a more upbeat picture.
Is it just me or are movie theaters getting desperate? I can sort of see why -- I have a 55 inch 4 K UHD television that is like having a movie screen in my living room. I don't have to go to the movies. I can get the experience in the comforts of my living room without the annoyances. However, I do want to see Avengers: Endgame in the theater -- because I want to see it with people, and I'm not willing to wait a year for it to come out on demand.
3. Watching American Idol -- out of curiousity, will state that this group is better than average. I'm rooting for the music teacher. He's interesting and the dishwasher. But I don't hold out much hope.
Oh good, the dishwasher got in. The music teacher better get in! Just saying. Oh dear, the music teacher didn't get in. Sigh.
But the judges can save them. Probably happened as rule change after Jennifer Hudson got voted off years ago.
Which is why these things are hard to take too seriously.
Oh dear, they saved the girl, who was boring and I didn't bother listening to. Which is why I don't tend to watch these shows. I'm always annoyed by the choices of the judges and viewers. Oh well, at least the dishwasher got in.
4. Had an epithany of sorts today. (Outside of the fact that I apparently can't spell the word epithany.) Which is that stress and anxiety and fear tend to make me really angry at whomever is causing it. Today it was a project manager and management, I tend to fight back.
I informed my mother of this over the phone. It did not come at all as surprise to her. Except I'm not entirely sure she gets the difference between being ordered to do something you don't want to do, and being stressed out about it? Occasionally, it becomes clear to me that my mother and I do not always think the same way.
Mother: Yes, pushing you in a direction you don't want to go makes you very angry.
Me: Actually that's not what I'm talking about --
Mother: Like whenever I ask you to go see your brother -
Me: Not this again.
Mother: You get mad at me. And stick in your heels.
Me: Because you will not drop it.
Mother: I've dropped it.
Me:Then why do you keep bringing up?
Mother: You should go see him.
Me: You don't understand -- it's not that easy --
Mother: No, I do. I had similar issues with my sister, we had a break of sorts, and she resented me but we got over it finally and --
Me: Not the same. We don't get along that well, and one or two hours are fine -- but I'd have to stay with him...and he always has friends there that I don't get along well with and --
Mother: I didn't want to get into it.
ME: You brought it up.
Mother: Just as an example.
Me: Sigh.
(I like control -- I go visit him, there is none. I'm stuck. And dependent on him. It's not like when he was living in the City -- and I could hop over there for an hour or two. Now? I'd have to stay with him, and depend on him picking me up, putting me up for the night, and taking me back to the train. Plus it is expensive going up there...the train costs over a $100. Also, he's a BROTHER, not a SISTER. There is a DIFFERENCE. Opposite sex sibling relationships are far harder to navigate than same-sex ones, my mother does not get this. She was raised with sisters. My father was raised with brothers. They don't understand at all. Although my father seems to be slightly more understanding on this point than my mother -- but I'm more like my father in regards to visiting people. We're both territorial and despise imposing on anyone for any reason.)
My mother will not leave me alone about this. She finds a way to work into over half of our conversations. She's like a dog with a frigging bone. My brother is far better at shutting her down than I am. She talks about something he doesn't like, he just stops talking to her, then changes the subject. This is a tactic that I suck at.
Mainly because I think it is rude. And inconsiderate of the other person. And hate it when people do it to me. And worry about how they feel about it. I get that the better approach is most likely his and when people do it to me -- I follow their lead and let them change the topic. Actually my mother has done this to me, most of my life. He probably gets it from her.
In short, as much as I love her, occasionally my mother drives me crazy. I'm thinking this may be true of all mothers? Sometimes, I'm very glad she lives far away and I can hang up on her.
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Date: 2019-05-07 03:40 am (UTC)Opposite sex sibling relationships are far harder to navigate than same-sex ones
I wouldn't call this a general rule. Brothers fight over things sisters don't care about. Sisters argue vehemently over things brothers don't care about. Nothing prevents a sister having problems with a brother. Some siblings have worse problems than others, and I wouldn't say that opposite sex or same sex has much to do with it.
I got along with both my siblings. My sister and brother fought like cats and dogs when they were teens, but when they matured they not only got along, but seemed to understand each other very well. It doesn't work with every family.
Some kids can't get along with their parents when they grow up. I saw it with someone we both know, so I won't name them. I honestly think the dad was trying to embarrass his then 40+ year-old child (who we know) in front of me. Petty crap. Maybe he just had to show me, a stranger he'd never see again, who was boss in that house at the expense of his kid. My parents would never pull such a thing when I was a teen, let alone when I was full grown and earning my own living. Some people are next to impossible to get on with at all. Others are so passive aggressive that you feel like you'd like to strangle them, but somehow it never seems the right moment to even criticize them, till the fur flies.
Your mom nags. My mom never nagged. We generally got on but we still had some rare nasty arguments over what one or both of us were doing.
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Date: 2019-05-07 04:38 pm (UTC)I don't know -- your situation isn't that comparable. Sort of like how my parents situations aren't comparable. You've more than one sibling. Right there -- the dynamic is completely different. I don't think you can imagine a dynamic of just one sibling, younger, who is two-three years apart. Add in a host of other factors.
Granted I did make a generalization -- but I've noticed that the relationship dynamic between sister-sister and sister-brother is VERY different. Just as brother-brother and sister-brother is. Why? We've got different anatomy, and brother/brother can sleep in the same room, same bed, and get naked together at all ages...without too much issue. Also it's easier for brother to talk to brother about romantic relationships and sexual ones, than say to a sister. There's also some jokes and other physical situations that are very different. And parental expectations for boys and girls vary. We live in a society that treats the genders differently -- and that effects the relationship.
Also, all mother's nag, I suppose. I don't consider the above nagging so much as parental frustration. ;-)
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Date: 2019-05-07 04:40 pm (UTC)Or to put it more crudely? I can't ask my brother to borrow a tampon.