Entitlement & Promising Young Woman
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shadowkatI need to stop counting - it occurred to me that I skipped a day. I did day 13 twice. I got to go back and renumber again. Ugh.
1. Today's epiphany?
I'm having a discussion with someone on a fan board. And getting no where.
They end with "I'm entitled to my opinion." (This phrase irritates me. It's kind of like waving a red flag at a bull. I want to kick people when they say it. And I did, I wrote a response about whether we really should be entitled to express it? I mean we may be entitled to our opinion but not entitled to always express it - when it hurts someone else. She did not appreciate my comment - was rather put off by it actually. It probably came across as condescending - it's hard not to on a FB fanboard. She got all huffy.) I turned off notifications - in case someone else continued the conversation.
But it occurs to me? Yes, maybe you are entitled to an opinion (since we live in a free society), but are you entitled to express it if it hurts another person? And what if my opinion hurts you and makes you feel nasty? What then? Still on board for that? (Probably not - people are hypocrites.)
I hate that word "entitled". It irritates me.
I think we make choices and we need to be held accountable to those choices?
Anyhow, assuming we are entitled to our opinions, it isn't always wise to express them- particularly online. I'm learning that - I've gotten in trouble for expressing an opinion and learning not to do so. And not when they could hurt or injure someone else. Sometimes our opinions inadvertently hurt and damage others in ways we never intended or could foresee. Sometimes they are misunderstood. It's hard to be clear online.
Is expressing our opinion worth the pain and injury it caused? Sometimes - it is best not to express it at all or keep it to ourselves. Or be mindful in how it is expressed. Maybe saying nothing at all would be the better option?
(I figured this out courtesy of a fan board - finally. I'm a bit dense - you'd have thought I'd have figured it out much much much earlier. I like to think I get wiser with age? Also, I think part of the toxicity of the internet and social media - is a tendency to be a bit too free with one's opinions. Often not thinking first. Although the person I tried to express it to - did not take it at all well - and got huffy. But it made me think, at least.)
2. Just finished watching Promising Young Woman - the Carey Mulligan black comedy. I rented it for about $6 via on-demand.
It's a very dark black comedy, with a gut-punch of an ending. I did not laugh during it - my sense of humor is admittedly dark but not quite THAT dark.
Also a satire, and satire - I don't tend to find funny. So much as haunting and thought-provoking.
Emerald Fennell's film is a realist black comedy that kind of throws our toxic male culture in our face, with a Harley-Quinn style grin.
Carey Mulligan plays Cassie - a young 30 something, who dropped out of med school with her friend Nina several years ago. She's working in a coffee shop by day, and by night trolling bars on the prowl for toxic men. She sets them up by pretending to be drunk, they take her home, and she enacts her revenge. She's been doing this for a very long time.
When along comes Ryan, a former classmate, who is still in contact with the old gang. Cassie suddenly sees an opportunity to enact revenge on the actual culprits.
We're not really shown what she does to the men she traps. Nor are we shown what happened in the past, so much as what it did to Cassie, and the implications. It's all subtly implied. Rape and violence are implied, not really shown. In fact there are no actual sex scenes in the film.
It's a revenge film, with a gut-punch twist of an ending, told in pastels.
And it will haunt me for a while.
Here's a really interesting article on the film - but it is spoilery - spoils the entire movie and ending. So only for those who haven't seen it yet.
1. Today's epiphany?
I'm having a discussion with someone on a fan board. And getting no where.
They end with "I'm entitled to my opinion." (This phrase irritates me. It's kind of like waving a red flag at a bull. I want to kick people when they say it. And I did, I wrote a response about whether we really should be entitled to express it? I mean we may be entitled to our opinion but not entitled to always express it - when it hurts someone else. She did not appreciate my comment - was rather put off by it actually. It probably came across as condescending - it's hard not to on a FB fanboard. She got all huffy.) I turned off notifications - in case someone else continued the conversation.
But it occurs to me? Yes, maybe you are entitled to an opinion (since we live in a free society), but are you entitled to express it if it hurts another person? And what if my opinion hurts you and makes you feel nasty? What then? Still on board for that? (Probably not - people are hypocrites.)
I hate that word "entitled". It irritates me.
I think we make choices and we need to be held accountable to those choices?
Anyhow, assuming we are entitled to our opinions, it isn't always wise to express them- particularly online. I'm learning that - I've gotten in trouble for expressing an opinion and learning not to do so. And not when they could hurt or injure someone else. Sometimes our opinions inadvertently hurt and damage others in ways we never intended or could foresee. Sometimes they are misunderstood. It's hard to be clear online.
Is expressing our opinion worth the pain and injury it caused? Sometimes - it is best not to express it at all or keep it to ourselves. Or be mindful in how it is expressed. Maybe saying nothing at all would be the better option?
(I figured this out courtesy of a fan board - finally. I'm a bit dense - you'd have thought I'd have figured it out much much much earlier. I like to think I get wiser with age? Also, I think part of the toxicity of the internet and social media - is a tendency to be a bit too free with one's opinions. Often not thinking first. Although the person I tried to express it to - did not take it at all well - and got huffy. But it made me think, at least.)
2. Just finished watching Promising Young Woman - the Carey Mulligan black comedy. I rented it for about $6 via on-demand.
It's a very dark black comedy, with a gut-punch of an ending. I did not laugh during it - my sense of humor is admittedly dark but not quite THAT dark.
Also a satire, and satire - I don't tend to find funny. So much as haunting and thought-provoking.
Emerald Fennell's film is a realist black comedy that kind of throws our toxic male culture in our face, with a Harley-Quinn style grin.
Carey Mulligan plays Cassie - a young 30 something, who dropped out of med school with her friend Nina several years ago. She's working in a coffee shop by day, and by night trolling bars on the prowl for toxic men. She sets them up by pretending to be drunk, they take her home, and she enacts her revenge. She's been doing this for a very long time.
When along comes Ryan, a former classmate, who is still in contact with the old gang. Cassie suddenly sees an opportunity to enact revenge on the actual culprits.
We're not really shown what she does to the men she traps. Nor are we shown what happened in the past, so much as what it did to Cassie, and the implications. It's all subtly implied. Rape and violence are implied, not really shown. In fact there are no actual sex scenes in the film.
It's a revenge film, with a gut-punch twist of an ending, told in pastels.
And it will haunt me for a while.
Here's a really interesting article on the film - but it is spoilery - spoils the entire movie and ending. So only for those who haven't seen it yet.
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Date: 2021-04-05 08:41 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2021-04-05 12:59 pm (UTC)Also some opinions can have serious consequences or result in violence. I think a lot of folks got on the internet to express frustration, rage, lash out at the world in a fit of (fill in the blank), whine, etc. And aren't always mindful of it?
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Date: 2021-04-05 12:58 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2021-04-05 01:11 pm (UTC)The idiots who think they are entitled to their opinion that the election was stolen, or that the virus is a hoax.
Ugh.
They also don't appear to understand the difference between opinion and fact. Some use the two interchangeably - their beliefs/interpretations of media or anything really are facts, and facts are opinions.