Y2/D347...Memories...
Feb. 26th, 2022 09:53 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
shadowkatAnd now I have that song in my head, not all of it, just a smidgen but it's enough. Should I plague you with it too? Decisions, decisions..Nah. I'll spare you.
Just finished watching New Amsterdam - I'm eleven (now 10) episodes behind - so it was an episode that appeared sometime in September in case you are watching it. Anyhow, a segment of it dealt with memory recall. Repressed memories aren't allowable as evidence in a court of law - mainly because there's no way to verify them. Memory isn't allowable for the most part.
Memories aren't reliable. In the episode Helene Sharpe furiously relates a traumatic childhood memory to the psychiatrist Iggy, who informs her that there's no way of knowing if it is even true. He starts proving to her how unreliable it is - in her memory it was raining, except there was a heat weave and a drop of rain hadn't occurred anywhere on the date it happened.
She remembers her father breaking her beads pushing her away from him. Except he couldn't have broken the beads - it requires a "pull". She finally realizes he hadn't broken the beads, nor had he pushed her away, her mother broke the beads pulling her away from her father.
Iggy states that even that version may not be the truth. That the truth of the matter is we don't know if our memories even happened, and in reality it doesn't matter - even though it matters a great deal to us.
Iggy: Don't define yourself by your memories.
Helene: What then?
Iggy: By the here and now. Who you are now. What you feel, and how you relate to things now.
I've been seeing that with my father first hand. His memories are unreliable and it's almost as if he's living in a combination of memory and dream, jumping between the two - and losing bits and pieces of reality along the way. Reality seems to be shifting beneath his feet, never quite there. And he's uncertain of his place amidst it. Perhaps the best analogy would be walking the deck of a ship - with his mind walking the deck, and reality the ocean beneath him.
Also been thinking about it myself of late. And realizing how many memories could be dreams or old storylines in my head. Letting them go, makes the most sense, yet holding on to the memories of those who passed. I don't know.
***
Mother: Your brother told me that before the Spanish Flu, we didn't have the flu - no one had heard of it. Then there were variants...and over time it weakened to what it is today. He thinks that COVID will most likely go along the same path.
Me: Makes sense. And that appears to be the pattern. We'll have new pandemics as well - since we are living in climate change, and viruses are more prevalent, also world-travel, and getting into places in the wilds that we most likely shouldn't. This is by no means the first pandemic or outbreak. We've had many. HIV, Cholera, Measles, Polio...
Mother: I remember being afraid of contracting polio in the summers as a teen. We all were. Yet, we couldn't very well stay indoors forever.
Me: And I remember getting the smallpox vaccine - it's that thing with all the pinpricks that leaves a scar and hurts -
Mother: Yep.
If one reads history - you can sort of see what happened with the Spanish Flu. It lasted from 1918 through 1925, dwindling to just influenza. My grandmother almost died of it, and one of her Aunts had. After it was done - we ended up with the roaring 20s, then WWII and the Great Depression.
People wore masks and isolated up to a point, then went hog wild.
I'll need time. I can't frolick like my coworker in Columbia at a wedding.
Or jump from country to country, plane by plane like my world-traveling niece who is making the most of her studies abroad.
But it appears most New Yorkers agree with me. We have among the lowest infection rates in the country at the moment - but most of us are wearing masks. We also have one of the highest vaccination rates. In the pharmacy, everyone wore masks, and I've noticed all delivery folks due, and most folks on the sidewalks. And just about everyone on public transportation.
The old Governor, Cuomo, was right about one thing - New Yorkers don't trust anyone but themselves, the facts, and what works. Wearing a mask, and getting vaccinated has worked. Long Islanders are a different story - that's Cancerville, so you basically got a bunch of people who willing moved to the area of the State with the highest risk of Cancer. Enuf said.
***
I watched a dumb but fun movie today - "When in Rome" on Hulu. Today, I was frittering about on Hulu and my DVR. The movie starred Kristen Bell, Josh Dushammel, Danny Devito, the actor who is married to Bell in real life, the actor who played the asshole on Arrested Development (not Jason Batmen, his asshole brother who resembles Bell's real life husband more than I knew) and Angelica Huston (of all people). I found it...a combination of charming, funny, cringe-inducing, thoughtful, and silly - which is kind of true of all modern rom-com's. It did hammer home the message - "don't give up, love may just be around the corner" or "you never know if you don't true" or "you need to stay open for it". It would of course help if I wasn't currently living the life of a hermit.
Also, it took place in NYC. And I'm sorry - she's a museum curator. Granted her father is wealthy - but my God, her apartment looks like something you'd get in the Midwest or elsewhere, not NY. Why do movies and television shows always show insanely nice New York apartments that are 1,000 square feet. Uhm no.
She's not in her apartment that often - so unlike the Meg Ryan rom-com's, I was able to hand-wave it. Most New York apartments look like Johnathan Larsen's in Tick Tock Boom or Sherlock's in Elementary, just saying.
The problem with 85% of television shows, series, and movies taking place in NYC - is I live here, and I pick up on the discrepancies. I like the one's that take place elsewhere - much better.
**
What else?
Twitter - I'm picking up on how to handle twitter. Like most things - you attract what you put out there. If you tend to be snarky and a culture junkie - you will attract snarky and culture junkies. If you are a social activist - you will attract that. If you are a sweet ingenue type who only posts things about cats, fairy tales, etc - you'll get that.
Fighting with folks on Twitter is NOT a good idea. For the most part - it's like fighting with a bunch of gnats, you get nowhere. If you are noticed (and you really don't want to be) - it's a hornets nest, and you either attract the notice of the evil marketing folks and get banned, OR you get your ass dragged by everyone who disagrees with you. You do not want a kerfuffle to go viral - that is very bad. The media is camped out on Twitter - and it's like a hibernating grizzly bear, you do not want to wake up the bear. I've seen folks wake up that bear - and it's not pretty.
It's destroyed more than one celebrity career.
Do not @ folks. This is basically tagging them in your response so that your response or tweet or post ends up in their notifications or email. It's one thing to reply directly to them, but to @ them on a post unrelated to them, or not in response to their own - is kind of rude.
Snitch tagging is when you tag someone they are talking about. Usually an actor or a character that actor portrays. For example? If I said that Spike is creep and so is his portrayer, and you taggedjamesmarsters - that would be snitch tagging. (Not that I ever would, but you get the point.)
It's important to understand the unwritten rules of social media platforms, so you don't step on toes and alienate folks.
And be very careful not to let things go viral. Twitter much like FB and Instagram is a marketing platform - it's completely set up to go viral in a heartbeat, and brand or market everything.
Finally, follow things that interest you. And be wary. If you decide to follow someone who tells a great story one day, or a humorous ancedote or posts a great photo of their cat - check out their home page, and other posts prior to friending. They may have crazy-ass friends that they re-tweet.
***
Saturday flew by quickly. I want more of it. I want to snuggle up with my weekend and not let go. Work has been kicking my ass.
Anywho. Here's a picture... [Went on facebook to snag a photo and stumbled upon my rocket engineer cousin (who worked on the penis rocket that Bestos sent into space with Shatner, and is currently working at Microsoft) - posting a photo of his office - where he has built a backlit Star Trek panel for his home office. It's basically a lit up chart of the inside decks of the USS Enterprise. I am tempted to post this - because it defies description. He also has models of rocket ships, including the penis shaped ship sent up by Bestos (I am resisting the urge to make an off-color joke about the penis shaped spaceship). The responses to his post are equally interesting...in which one correspondent states she wants to build a life size Darth Vader and Han Solo frozen in carbonite to go along with her X-Wing collection which shows up in Zoom meetings. I think techie's are being paid too much for creating faulty software, but that's just me.]
Okay...I decided to post the picture because honestly it defies description, it'll disappear in a month anyhow..
Just finished watching New Amsterdam - I'm eleven (now 10) episodes behind - so it was an episode that appeared sometime in September in case you are watching it. Anyhow, a segment of it dealt with memory recall. Repressed memories aren't allowable as evidence in a court of law - mainly because there's no way to verify them. Memory isn't allowable for the most part.
Memories aren't reliable. In the episode Helene Sharpe furiously relates a traumatic childhood memory to the psychiatrist Iggy, who informs her that there's no way of knowing if it is even true. He starts proving to her how unreliable it is - in her memory it was raining, except there was a heat weave and a drop of rain hadn't occurred anywhere on the date it happened.
She remembers her father breaking her beads pushing her away from him. Except he couldn't have broken the beads - it requires a "pull". She finally realizes he hadn't broken the beads, nor had he pushed her away, her mother broke the beads pulling her away from her father.
Iggy states that even that version may not be the truth. That the truth of the matter is we don't know if our memories even happened, and in reality it doesn't matter - even though it matters a great deal to us.
Iggy: Don't define yourself by your memories.
Helene: What then?
Iggy: By the here and now. Who you are now. What you feel, and how you relate to things now.
I've been seeing that with my father first hand. His memories are unreliable and it's almost as if he's living in a combination of memory and dream, jumping between the two - and losing bits and pieces of reality along the way. Reality seems to be shifting beneath his feet, never quite there. And he's uncertain of his place amidst it. Perhaps the best analogy would be walking the deck of a ship - with his mind walking the deck, and reality the ocean beneath him.
Also been thinking about it myself of late. And realizing how many memories could be dreams or old storylines in my head. Letting them go, makes the most sense, yet holding on to the memories of those who passed. I don't know.
***
Mother: Your brother told me that before the Spanish Flu, we didn't have the flu - no one had heard of it. Then there were variants...and over time it weakened to what it is today. He thinks that COVID will most likely go along the same path.
Me: Makes sense. And that appears to be the pattern. We'll have new pandemics as well - since we are living in climate change, and viruses are more prevalent, also world-travel, and getting into places in the wilds that we most likely shouldn't. This is by no means the first pandemic or outbreak. We've had many. HIV, Cholera, Measles, Polio...
Mother: I remember being afraid of contracting polio in the summers as a teen. We all were. Yet, we couldn't very well stay indoors forever.
Me: And I remember getting the smallpox vaccine - it's that thing with all the pinpricks that leaves a scar and hurts -
Mother: Yep.
If one reads history - you can sort of see what happened with the Spanish Flu. It lasted from 1918 through 1925, dwindling to just influenza. My grandmother almost died of it, and one of her Aunts had. After it was done - we ended up with the roaring 20s, then WWII and the Great Depression.
People wore masks and isolated up to a point, then went hog wild.
I'll need time. I can't frolick like my coworker in Columbia at a wedding.
Or jump from country to country, plane by plane like my world-traveling niece who is making the most of her studies abroad.
But it appears most New Yorkers agree with me. We have among the lowest infection rates in the country at the moment - but most of us are wearing masks. We also have one of the highest vaccination rates. In the pharmacy, everyone wore masks, and I've noticed all delivery folks due, and most folks on the sidewalks. And just about everyone on public transportation.
The old Governor, Cuomo, was right about one thing - New Yorkers don't trust anyone but themselves, the facts, and what works. Wearing a mask, and getting vaccinated has worked. Long Islanders are a different story - that's Cancerville, so you basically got a bunch of people who willing moved to the area of the State with the highest risk of Cancer. Enuf said.
***
I watched a dumb but fun movie today - "When in Rome" on Hulu. Today, I was frittering about on Hulu and my DVR. The movie starred Kristen Bell, Josh Dushammel, Danny Devito, the actor who is married to Bell in real life, the actor who played the asshole on Arrested Development (not Jason Batmen, his asshole brother who resembles Bell's real life husband more than I knew) and Angelica Huston (of all people). I found it...a combination of charming, funny, cringe-inducing, thoughtful, and silly - which is kind of true of all modern rom-com's. It did hammer home the message - "don't give up, love may just be around the corner" or "you never know if you don't true" or "you need to stay open for it". It would of course help if I wasn't currently living the life of a hermit.
Also, it took place in NYC. And I'm sorry - she's a museum curator. Granted her father is wealthy - but my God, her apartment looks like something you'd get in the Midwest or elsewhere, not NY. Why do movies and television shows always show insanely nice New York apartments that are 1,000 square feet. Uhm no.
She's not in her apartment that often - so unlike the Meg Ryan rom-com's, I was able to hand-wave it. Most New York apartments look like Johnathan Larsen's in Tick Tock Boom or Sherlock's in Elementary, just saying.
The problem with 85% of television shows, series, and movies taking place in NYC - is I live here, and I pick up on the discrepancies. I like the one's that take place elsewhere - much better.
**
What else?
Twitter - I'm picking up on how to handle twitter. Like most things - you attract what you put out there. If you tend to be snarky and a culture junkie - you will attract snarky and culture junkies. If you are a social activist - you will attract that. If you are a sweet ingenue type who only posts things about cats, fairy tales, etc - you'll get that.
Fighting with folks on Twitter is NOT a good idea. For the most part - it's like fighting with a bunch of gnats, you get nowhere. If you are noticed (and you really don't want to be) - it's a hornets nest, and you either attract the notice of the evil marketing folks and get banned, OR you get your ass dragged by everyone who disagrees with you. You do not want a kerfuffle to go viral - that is very bad. The media is camped out on Twitter - and it's like a hibernating grizzly bear, you do not want to wake up the bear. I've seen folks wake up that bear - and it's not pretty.
It's destroyed more than one celebrity career.
Do not @ folks. This is basically tagging them in your response so that your response or tweet or post ends up in their notifications or email. It's one thing to reply directly to them, but to @ them on a post unrelated to them, or not in response to their own - is kind of rude.
Snitch tagging is when you tag someone they are talking about. Usually an actor or a character that actor portrays. For example? If I said that Spike is creep and so is his portrayer, and you tagged
jamesmarsters - that would be snitch tagging. (Not that I ever would, but you get the point.)It's important to understand the unwritten rules of social media platforms, so you don't step on toes and alienate folks.
And be very careful not to let things go viral. Twitter much like FB and Instagram is a marketing platform - it's completely set up to go viral in a heartbeat, and brand or market everything.
Finally, follow things that interest you. And be wary. If you decide to follow someone who tells a great story one day, or a humorous ancedote or posts a great photo of their cat - check out their home page, and other posts prior to friending. They may have crazy-ass friends that they re-tweet.
***
Saturday flew by quickly. I want more of it. I want to snuggle up with my weekend and not let go. Work has been kicking my ass.
Anywho. Here's a picture... [Went on facebook to snag a photo and stumbled upon my rocket engineer cousin (who worked on the penis rocket that Bestos sent into space with Shatner, and is currently working at Microsoft) - posting a photo of his office - where he has built a backlit Star Trek panel for his home office. It's basically a lit up chart of the inside decks of the USS Enterprise. I am tempted to post this - because it defies description. He also has models of rocket ships, including the penis shaped ship sent up by Bestos (I am resisting the urge to make an off-color joke about the penis shaped spaceship). The responses to his post are equally interesting...in which one correspondent states she wants to build a life size Darth Vader and Han Solo frozen in carbonite to go along with her X-Wing collection which shows up in Zoom meetings. I think techie's are being paid too much for creating faulty software, but that's just me.]
Okay...I decided to post the picture because honestly it defies description, it'll disappear in a month anyhow..
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Date: 2022-02-27 07:18 am (UTC)I've enjoyed this series since it debuted, and find the current season to be one of the best, partly because they did something later on in it (around mid-season) that I very much wanted to see, but thought it very likely I wouldn't-- not a typical TV resolution of a difficult situation.
IMO, best medical series on broadcast TV since the late great St. Elsewhere and ER.
Re: picture-- Ooooo, spacey!
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Date: 2022-02-27 03:58 pm (UTC)Most medical dramas fall into melodrama, bad procedural, or sentimentality or soap opera hijinks. But there have been a few that have jumped above that.
(I've admittedly not really tried Chicago Med, and I don't like The Resident or The Good Doctor, which I think both fall into overblown melodrama or contrived sentimentality. So too does Grey's which is very soapy.)
Yep, I thought the office was very spacey too. Hee.
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Date: 2022-02-27 02:31 pm (UTC)You've got your soaps, your cousin has his space toys, I've got my toys. To each their own!
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Date: 2022-02-27 03:45 pm (UTC)1. I'm not judging - I actually think that schematic is wickedly cool. Wish I could do that. (I'm envious.)
2. I only watch General Hospital. And I'm not that big a fan of the sole soap I watch. I've zero collectibles of it, and it's mainly to have something to talk to my mother about and play with online. I'm a casual fan. I've never been fannish enough to have collectibles.
The only thing I ever got remotely fannish about was Buffy, and that was mainly online - I have no collectibles. But it's the closest I got, that and Star Wars as a kid.
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Date: 2022-02-27 03:29 pm (UTC)Re: the origin of the flu. I don't understand what your mother (via your brother?) is trying to say, but it sounds oversimplified. This is a good overview of the topic: The Story of Influenza.
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Date: 2022-02-27 03:51 pm (UTC)