Various things...and well the Barbie movie
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shadowkat1. Read on Twitter a thread I can't find now, but I still remember...
A woman met a man on a dating app. He was nice, charming, and they seemed to really click. Went on two dates. The second date they stayed at a bar until well past midnight talking. Got along splendidly. He offered to walk her to her car in the parking lot. When she went to unlock the door, he knocked her to the ground, then straddled her and proceeded to try to knock her head against the pavement repeatedly. She started screaming and fighting back. She kicked him in the groin twice, and when fell down in pain, she elbowed him on her way up in the face. Two off duty police officers than showed up and came to her assistance, one immediately took the man into custody, knocking him to the ground - face down, with his knee in the center of his back as he cuffed him.
The other one called an ambulance and drove with her to the hospital. At the hospital they arranged for counseling and trauma assistance. Also, she would testify against the man at his trail. He was being held in jail without bail for aggravated assault, and had a record of violence against women.
This in a nutshell is why I won't use dating apps. When I did use them, the men I met were all a little creepy with one exception - the Chinese Doctor from Shanghai was actually pretty cool. I liked him. But all the white guys were creepy. They didn't try anything - because I met them in open, well-populated places in NYC, and I'm not small nor the sort who would necessarily be a target. But a few of them - were creepy.
There's a lot of scary people out there.
It also reminded me of when I was nineteen/twenty years of age in London, and a bunch of construction workers were getting off on harassing the women in front of our building. They'd giggle and duck through the gauntlet. One grabbed my wrist and I removed his hand and let him know in no uncertain terms that he was not to touch me or harass me. I was not there for his objectification or enjoyment. I twisted his wrist painfully when I removed it.
They backed off. And then I pretended they did not exist and avoided them. A friend came by our house in London (it was a summer study program, and my friend who hailed from London was visiting family) - was upset with me for not saying hello to them and being polite. I told her they didn't deserve it, and I wasn't going to continue to encourage the catcalling or their harassment. She considered it harmless flirting. It wasn't.
2. Made progress on my novel - which I emailed to myself - so if I get bored at work, I can work on it there. I'm in a holding pattern, waiting for other people to send me work - and there's little I can do to prepare for it.
So it's kind of like being told all of this is coming your way - and when it does, you have to do it all instantly, but the folks sending it to you can take forever and a day or as much time as they desire with no real consequences.
As a result of this attitude? I don't care. I don't. I'm not anxious. I figure it will get done when it gets done.
I don't really care about anything at the moment. What's that Pink Floyd song? "Comfortably Numb?" I always adored that song. Some songs just resonate, no matter how old you are, and some just get better with age.
I don't. Care that is, I really have no clue whether I get better with age. Not the best judge of that.
I get the housework done. I take my pills. I watch my shows. I do my artwork. I do my work and get it done at crazy org. I get up and get to work. I call my mother. I interact on social media. I work on my novel. I listen to books...and read. Also I find myself staring out in space a lot not thinking about much of anything. Anyhow, the song really fits how I'm feeling at the moment.
Wales: Thank you for letting me vent about my anger. I appreciate it. (She doesn't want to discuss anything via the phone. She just wants to text me. That's why she doesn't call me - if she calls, I talk back.)
Knowing this, I restrained myself from texting back..."just as long as you don't mind the fact that I am ignoring you." I figure if she just wants to vent, I can ignore the texts, not respond, and not read them. I think she needs a blog - venting works better on blogs or DW. Then you can put it behind a cut text - state "vent" and even turn off the comments. And Voila. But alas, she doesn't know how to do that - she instead she texts. I vent to mother, and well blog.
3. Listening to Geena Davis' Dying Politely - and it's interesting. She managed to become a model - by lying about her age and height. She also wore high heels, so if anyone thought she was too tall - they'd just blame it on the heels. Her body apparently was considered attractive - since they kept sticking it on other models heads. She also made a cover, but her face was covered by a big hat. Because she was a lingeri model and got used to being half nude on camera, when she got her first role - in the film Tootsie, and had perform opposite Dustin Hoffman in her underwear, she was calm and didn't care.
Hoffman taught her to watch the daily's to see how she could improve, and to never sleep with her male co-stars. And if they hit on her - to tell them that it would ruin the sexual tension. So when Jack Nickelson hit on her - she basically gave him that line, very politely of course.
It's an interesting book - Davis is a good narrator, and has a wry wit.
4. Only with the internet can we do this...
And the whole thing compared in stills... HERE.
I honestly have mixed feelings about both. I like Maria better in the second one. Tony is miscast in both, but Richard Beemer is far more appealing than the guy who plays him in the 2021 version, who frankly, gives me the creeps (he's only really good in the Cool sequence). Riff is good in both but far more believable as a dangerous gang leader in the 2021 version, Tony is more believable as a former gang leader in the 2021 version as well. Bernardo is better in the first one, but the Bernardo in the second version is more believable and actually Puerto Rican. Anita is good in both. In some respects the second one is more realistic and edgier than the first one.
They are both realistic takes on the 1950s, and how people handled things back then. Also the gang violence, and the lack of agency that women had in just about anything. I don't think the story works well now. You really have to look at it in a 1950s context. Also keep in mind, that Maria is 16 or 17, and Tony should be much older than 17 or 18. In Romeo & Juliet? They were both 14-15 years of age. And romance is not logical. That's the difficulty with it. There's a Broadway play on Broadway right now, entitled & Juliet - which kind of asks the question, what if Juliet didn't try to kill herself and survived Romeo (who turns out not to be so dead after all). It basically shows that she's better off without him, and he was a bit of a disaster. Which I honestly thought the Spielberg version of West Side Story also got across rather well - in it Tony is an ex-con, she's better off without him.
5. My favorite reality series (via Netflix, originated on History channel, with full seasons apparently available on Hulu) popped up again. Alone S9. In this series, 10 contestants, who are experts in primitive survival skills, are taken to a remote wilderness area, deposited miles apart from each other - and the one who lasts the longest - wins. They are all given camera equipment, have check-in's three times a week, and provided a satellite phone - to tap out at any time. They are placed in remote areas, and have to find a way to battle the elements, wildlife, and find food. Each participant has extensive knowledge in surviving in the wild, otherwise they can't do it. It's not for amateurs. These are professional survivalists, many who do it for a living.
The ones who last the longest - are the ones who actually have done it for a living or do it for a living. The hobbyists tend to tap out within the first twenty days.
This group was deposited in Labarador, Canada, near Newfoundland. A remote, cold area of Canada, that receives 30 inches of rain, has Brook Troute, Black Bears, and Polar Bears. The Polar Bears are dangerous - since they are the only predator that actively hunts humans outside of lions and well humans, according to one human on the show. I don't know if that is true? I think there are a few others that do too. But I could be wrong about that.
I've made it through two-three episodes so far. Kept going to sleep during it today. [I'm not sleeping great at night. Been having lots of nightmares.]
The other one that I'm watching on Netflix is Is it Cake? - I made it through S2, only to discover to my surprise that there's a S3. I'm not crazy about the host - so that is a problem. Not a huge problem. But a problem. It's basically a show where people make cakes that look exactly like another inanimate object, and folks guess if its cake.
I can watch it - without wanting to eat cake - because a cake disguised as a bowl of nachos or a tool bag is not appetizing to me in the least. Also they all sound a little sugary and kind of gross.
6. Raining tonight. Hopefully won't rain tomorrow. Oh, I remember what else I wanted to talk about...Twitter keeps posting people disparaging the Barbie Movie. (LOL!) And my friends on Twitter keep fighting with them over it.
C*ntbot, PhD
pacino_girl
·
Jul 7
THANK YOU Barbie is a bimbo and a slut we should be teaching young girls it’s ok to be dumb and sexually promiscuous and obsessed with boys. That is literally the whole point
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Pop Base
popbase
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Jul 7
Diablo Cody on why she couldn't write a draft for #Barbie and left the project in 2018:
“They wanted a girl-boss feminist twist on Barbie, and I couldn’t figure it out because that’s not what Barbie is.”
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Friend: Barbie is a DOLL, you’re projecting a life story onto her (which is what she is for but…it’s not her, you’re bringing the narrative)
Me: But that's what people do with dolls - for me Barbie was an action-adventurer, but apparently that was just me.
It is my difficulty with the Barbie movie. I'm not girly. Never was. Never will be. Also I don't have a lot of tolerance for girly movies - I get annoyed. And broad satire/parody isn't funny to me, boring yes, funny no.
So I have this feeling this movie isn't for me. Everyone else, maybe. But not me. I want to see the Oppenheimer film.
Also, the folks in the tweet above - clearly didn't the article - which is Why Diablo Cody Couldn't Write the Barbie Movie.
I wouldn't have been able to write it. I don't see the doll the same way as other's did. I told adventure, fantasy, and science fiction stories with the doll - not fashion or romance stories. She went through the ringer. By the time I was through with her - she had short hair, scratches on her legs, and no arm. I was hard on my Barbies. Collector's items they weren't.
A woman met a man on a dating app. He was nice, charming, and they seemed to really click. Went on two dates. The second date they stayed at a bar until well past midnight talking. Got along splendidly. He offered to walk her to her car in the parking lot. When she went to unlock the door, he knocked her to the ground, then straddled her and proceeded to try to knock her head against the pavement repeatedly. She started screaming and fighting back. She kicked him in the groin twice, and when fell down in pain, she elbowed him on her way up in the face. Two off duty police officers than showed up and came to her assistance, one immediately took the man into custody, knocking him to the ground - face down, with his knee in the center of his back as he cuffed him.
The other one called an ambulance and drove with her to the hospital. At the hospital they arranged for counseling and trauma assistance. Also, she would testify against the man at his trail. He was being held in jail without bail for aggravated assault, and had a record of violence against women.
This in a nutshell is why I won't use dating apps. When I did use them, the men I met were all a little creepy with one exception - the Chinese Doctor from Shanghai was actually pretty cool. I liked him. But all the white guys were creepy. They didn't try anything - because I met them in open, well-populated places in NYC, and I'm not small nor the sort who would necessarily be a target. But a few of them - were creepy.
There's a lot of scary people out there.
It also reminded me of when I was nineteen/twenty years of age in London, and a bunch of construction workers were getting off on harassing the women in front of our building. They'd giggle and duck through the gauntlet. One grabbed my wrist and I removed his hand and let him know in no uncertain terms that he was not to touch me or harass me. I was not there for his objectification or enjoyment. I twisted his wrist painfully when I removed it.
They backed off. And then I pretended they did not exist and avoided them. A friend came by our house in London (it was a summer study program, and my friend who hailed from London was visiting family) - was upset with me for not saying hello to them and being polite. I told her they didn't deserve it, and I wasn't going to continue to encourage the catcalling or their harassment. She considered it harmless flirting. It wasn't.
2. Made progress on my novel - which I emailed to myself - so if I get bored at work, I can work on it there. I'm in a holding pattern, waiting for other people to send me work - and there's little I can do to prepare for it.
So it's kind of like being told all of this is coming your way - and when it does, you have to do it all instantly, but the folks sending it to you can take forever and a day or as much time as they desire with no real consequences.
As a result of this attitude? I don't care. I don't. I'm not anxious. I figure it will get done when it gets done.
I don't really care about anything at the moment. What's that Pink Floyd song? "Comfortably Numb?" I always adored that song. Some songs just resonate, no matter how old you are, and some just get better with age.
I don't. Care that is, I really have no clue whether I get better with age. Not the best judge of that.
I get the housework done. I take my pills. I watch my shows. I do my artwork. I do my work and get it done at crazy org. I get up and get to work. I call my mother. I interact on social media. I work on my novel. I listen to books...and read. Also I find myself staring out in space a lot not thinking about much of anything. Anyhow, the song really fits how I'm feeling at the moment.
Wales: Thank you for letting me vent about my anger. I appreciate it. (She doesn't want to discuss anything via the phone. She just wants to text me. That's why she doesn't call me - if she calls, I talk back.)
Knowing this, I restrained myself from texting back..."just as long as you don't mind the fact that I am ignoring you." I figure if she just wants to vent, I can ignore the texts, not respond, and not read them. I think she needs a blog - venting works better on blogs or DW. Then you can put it behind a cut text - state "vent" and even turn off the comments. And Voila. But alas, she doesn't know how to do that - she instead she texts. I vent to mother, and well blog.
3. Listening to Geena Davis' Dying Politely - and it's interesting. She managed to become a model - by lying about her age and height. She also wore high heels, so if anyone thought she was too tall - they'd just blame it on the heels. Her body apparently was considered attractive - since they kept sticking it on other models heads. She also made a cover, but her face was covered by a big hat. Because she was a lingeri model and got used to being half nude on camera, when she got her first role - in the film Tootsie, and had perform opposite Dustin Hoffman in her underwear, she was calm and didn't care.
Hoffman taught her to watch the daily's to see how she could improve, and to never sleep with her male co-stars. And if they hit on her - to tell them that it would ruin the sexual tension. So when Jack Nickelson hit on her - she basically gave him that line, very politely of course.
It's an interesting book - Davis is a good narrator, and has a wry wit.
4. Only with the internet can we do this...
And the whole thing compared in stills... HERE.
I honestly have mixed feelings about both. I like Maria better in the second one. Tony is miscast in both, but Richard Beemer is far more appealing than the guy who plays him in the 2021 version, who frankly, gives me the creeps (he's only really good in the Cool sequence). Riff is good in both but far more believable as a dangerous gang leader in the 2021 version, Tony is more believable as a former gang leader in the 2021 version as well. Bernardo is better in the first one, but the Bernardo in the second version is more believable and actually Puerto Rican. Anita is good in both. In some respects the second one is more realistic and edgier than the first one.
They are both realistic takes on the 1950s, and how people handled things back then. Also the gang violence, and the lack of agency that women had in just about anything. I don't think the story works well now. You really have to look at it in a 1950s context. Also keep in mind, that Maria is 16 or 17, and Tony should be much older than 17 or 18. In Romeo & Juliet? They were both 14-15 years of age. And romance is not logical. That's the difficulty with it. There's a Broadway play on Broadway right now, entitled & Juliet - which kind of asks the question, what if Juliet didn't try to kill herself and survived Romeo (who turns out not to be so dead after all). It basically shows that she's better off without him, and he was a bit of a disaster. Which I honestly thought the Spielberg version of West Side Story also got across rather well - in it Tony is an ex-con, she's better off without him.
5. My favorite reality series (via Netflix, originated on History channel, with full seasons apparently available on Hulu) popped up again. Alone S9. In this series, 10 contestants, who are experts in primitive survival skills, are taken to a remote wilderness area, deposited miles apart from each other - and the one who lasts the longest - wins. They are all given camera equipment, have check-in's three times a week, and provided a satellite phone - to tap out at any time. They are placed in remote areas, and have to find a way to battle the elements, wildlife, and find food. Each participant has extensive knowledge in surviving in the wild, otherwise they can't do it. It's not for amateurs. These are professional survivalists, many who do it for a living.
The ones who last the longest - are the ones who actually have done it for a living or do it for a living. The hobbyists tend to tap out within the first twenty days.
This group was deposited in Labarador, Canada, near Newfoundland. A remote, cold area of Canada, that receives 30 inches of rain, has Brook Troute, Black Bears, and Polar Bears. The Polar Bears are dangerous - since they are the only predator that actively hunts humans outside of lions and well humans, according to one human on the show. I don't know if that is true? I think there are a few others that do too. But I could be wrong about that.
I've made it through two-three episodes so far. Kept going to sleep during it today. [I'm not sleeping great at night. Been having lots of nightmares.]
The other one that I'm watching on Netflix is Is it Cake? - I made it through S2, only to discover to my surprise that there's a S3. I'm not crazy about the host - so that is a problem. Not a huge problem. But a problem. It's basically a show where people make cakes that look exactly like another inanimate object, and folks guess if its cake.
I can watch it - without wanting to eat cake - because a cake disguised as a bowl of nachos or a tool bag is not appetizing to me in the least. Also they all sound a little sugary and kind of gross.
6. Raining tonight. Hopefully won't rain tomorrow. Oh, I remember what else I wanted to talk about...Twitter keeps posting people disparaging the Barbie Movie. (LOL!) And my friends on Twitter keep fighting with them over it.
C*ntbot, PhD
pacino_girl·
Jul 7
THANK YOU Barbie is a bimbo and a slut we should be teaching young girls it’s ok to be dumb and sexually promiscuous and obsessed with boys. That is literally the whole point
Quote Tweet
Pop Base
popbase·
Jul 7
Diablo Cody on why she couldn't write a draft for #Barbie and left the project in 2018:
“They wanted a girl-boss feminist twist on Barbie, and I couldn’t figure it out because that’s not what Barbie is.”
Image
Friend: Barbie is a DOLL, you’re projecting a life story onto her (which is what she is for but…it’s not her, you’re bringing the narrative)
Me: But that's what people do with dolls - for me Barbie was an action-adventurer, but apparently that was just me.
It is my difficulty with the Barbie movie. I'm not girly. Never was. Never will be. Also I don't have a lot of tolerance for girly movies - I get annoyed. And broad satire/parody isn't funny to me, boring yes, funny no.
So I have this feeling this movie isn't for me. Everyone else, maybe. But not me. I want to see the Oppenheimer film.
Also, the folks in the tweet above - clearly didn't the article - which is Why Diablo Cody Couldn't Write the Barbie Movie.
I wouldn't have been able to write it. I don't see the doll the same way as other's did. I told adventure, fantasy, and science fiction stories with the doll - not fashion or romance stories. She went through the ringer. By the time I was through with her - she had short hair, scratches on her legs, and no arm. I was hard on my Barbies. Collector's items they weren't.
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Date: 2023-07-11 10:25 pm (UTC)I tried online dating - prior to the whole app thing, and it was scary too. And you really can't tell who someone is based on a photo, or none at all.
Your sister and her friends has the right idea - to have a find your friends option, and to pick public places. I did. And it's better to do it during the day.