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Okay, folks, fair warning - it's Friday, the week was a battle that I slugged through with jaw firmly gripped, and trying really hard not to be a bitch, I feel like all my nerve endings are on fire and I want to strangle people. (Which basically means, don't piss me off - I will eat you for breakfast with snarky words and most likely regret it later. Came very close to not one but two meltdowns, but kept self firmly in check. Yay me. )

Relaxed with two glasses of white wine ( Oyster Bay, New Zealand, Sauvignon Blanc, with a touch of St. Germain liquor - yum! It tastes citriusy with a little zing. ) Prior to that, a chocolat/plain unsweetened soy milk, touch of skim milk, rum cocktail (hey it's healthy) and of course dinner (hamburger grilled on George Foreman min-grill (my new favorite kitchen appliance courtesy of Momster - actually Granny - I inherited from her), with red onion, two slices of tomato, dill pickle, Annie's Organic Gluten-Free Ketchup, and corn on the cob. No - bun - eww!)
So feel nicely buzzed and very snarky.

Just finished watching Covert Affairs - which has the distinction of actually being a non-racist, non-sexist, non-discriminatory action show, with a bit of a statement about sexism and racism and discrimination in the work place. Fascinating. It's sort of the action thriller version of The Good Wife (although the Good Wife is arguably better written.) I rather adore the cast - we have Piper Perabo, Sendal R. (the hot Indian guy from Heroes), Christopher Gorham (Henry from Ugly Betty, playing a blind guy - he does like playing the vision impaired),
Gregory Itzin (the villian from 24), Eric La Salle (an ex-agent who is co-starring in this episode), Peter Gallagher, and the actress who is playing his wife and the head of the unit (who is amazing and I can't remember her name.). It's a good, twisty, episodic thriller.

Don't know what I'm doing this weekend. My life is pathetic. It's work and church at the moment.
Attempting to do flat hunting and social stuff in between chores. But mostly just crashing at night due to work.

Five Things I've Learned About Fandom

Too snarky tonight, methinks, to safely post. I've deleted two, no, three posts that would get me in a lot of trouble. We'll see if I delete this one.

Five things I've learned about fandom:

1. People often will rec meta regardless of how poorly it is written and exclaim it is brilliant if it expresses their point of view, without them having to do it themselves. (Which makes me wonder about the folks who squee'ed over my meta. Was it really any good? Or did you just like it because it said what you thought? Note - meta is only brilliant when it convinces someone who does NOT agree with you to either change their mind or enables them to appreciate your perspective on the manner and consider it. If it is only preaching to the choir or worse, turns off those who either don't already agree with you, have not made up their own minds on the issue, or clearly disagree - then, honey, you wasted your time and you might want to rethink it. I can always tell when I scored with a piece of meta - when someone who I know vehemently disagrees with me - comments and tells me it was brilliant or made them think.) Curious - why don't people rec meta that expresses a view contrary to your own yet made you think twice, and changed your mind? Maybe people do??

2. Fandom often feels like it can be split into two disagreeable and incendiary factions, one often resulting in the other or they just attract each other like magnets, I can never tell...the dreaded MSHRAs and SRHE-HJs. (*MSHRA =Misogynistic-Sexist-Homophobic-Racist-Ass, SRHE-HJ =Self-Righteous, Holier-than-thou, Evangelistic, (not-always but often) - Hypocritical Jerks) While I do read and will engage with the SRHE-HJ (often to my own detriment yet incredible amusement) - I attempt to avoid at all costs MSHRA (mainly because they scare me). I've learned that engaging with either - particularly when they are in full rant or battle mode is a bad idea (they will inevitably launch into name-calling, and turn you into their arch enemy with just a few words, so watch out!). What both have in common is an over-reliance on assumptions and generalizations as well as faulty understanding of logic that springs from lazy thinking, to support their own increasingly insular point of view. They also tend to be reactionary, and highly emotional. Their posts are often rants and will emotionally trigger everyone who happens to stumble upon them - resulting in insanely long comments threads, link threads, and at their worst, journal wide flame-wars that can last for days. And, they attract each other like magnets - an SRHE-HJ will inevitably get an MSHRA to respond, and vice versa. If one or the other responds to your post, the best response is to delete or ignore.

3. Do not criticize someone else's fanfic or vid or meta. They have FRIENDS. You can however praise it or more importantly recommend it in a highly favorable manner - if you do so, do not be surprised to suddenly obtain a whole new group of friends in the process.

4. Do not bash someone else's favorite character, ship, book, or tv show - particularly if you know they are on your flist - unless you like conflict. Best approach? If you dislike it or hate it? Don't write about it. Think how you would feel if they bashed your favorite character, tv show, book, or ship?

5. Eh. Try really hard to Be Tolerant of Other's Views even if they appear to be illogical, incite rage, and drive you insane with their troll logic - particularly as those views relate to items such as books, fictional characters and ships, and tv shows. And do not attempt to
impose your sane, logical, and superior view on them - even if you know for a fact you are right! (Because the way life's been going of late, it's more than possible next week even, that you'll be proven dead wrong - and hey look, now you've got egg on your face and look like an idiot.)