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About a week ago, I did a poll on Bullying. One of the questions was if anyone had witnessed or seen bullying on the internet or cyber-bullying. Of the 40 people who responded, 28 stated that they had been bullied in school and 28 had witnessed cyber-bulling. That is roughly 73% of the people who responded.
Today, is stand up against cyber bullying day. Wear purple - which I did. But no one noticed, because my work-place skews older than 45 and no one is really online. Thought I'd finish off the day with this post.
First off - what is cyber bullying? Because when I saw the responses I wondered if we all define it the same way. So, I did what any responsible internet poster/blogger does - I goggled it.
The first definition is from Olweus - the World's Foremost Prevention Against Bullying Program.
http://www.olweus.org/public/cyber_bullying.page
What is Cyber Bullying?
Cyber bullying is bullying which uses e-technology as a means of victimising others. It is the use of an Internet service or mobile technologies - such as e-mail, chat room discussion groups, instant messaging, webpages or SMS (text messaging) - with the intention of harming another person. ...
Cyber bullying has some rather unique characteristics that are different from traditional bullying:
( Read more... )
This brings up another question - what is bullying?
"A person is bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons, and he or she has difficulty defending himself or herself."
This definition includes three important components:
1. Bullying is aggressive behavior that involves unwanted, negative actions.
2. Bullying involves a pattern of behavior repeated over time.
3. Bullying involves an imbalance of power or strength.
Bullying can take on many forms. As part of the Olweus Bullying Questionnaire, students are asked if they have been bullied in any of these nine ways:
( Read more... )
What strikes me about the definitions is bullying is always about "power". Reminds me of something I told a work colleague today about a situation in which I was being bullied by project managers,
I said power. When someone gets power, doesn't matter how nice a person they are - the power goes to their heads and they start to wield it and not always in a nice or productive manner. We see it on fanboards with people who get well, big-headed. Or with Hollywood filmmakers, or politicians.
And the vast majority of bullies in school are kids who are cheerleaders, jocks, or "popular".
In our stories - we talk about it. Everyone notes it. From Huckleberry Finn where Tom Sawyer bullies Jim to Buffy the Vampire Slayer's Cordelia who relentlessly bullies Willow and Xander with the aid of her top minion Harmony. Notable children's books about bullying include Judy Bloom's excellent "Blubber", Robert Cormier's The Chocolat War, Fieldings' The Lord of the Flies,
the excellent To Kill A Mockingbird - where bullying is in some respects analogized to killing a mockingbird, Harriet the Spy, and countless others that I can't recall at this specific moment.
Television shows that have referenced bullying in various guises range from The Office to Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Glee, Popular, Veronica Mars, Freaks and Geeks, Square Pegs, Wonder Years, Happy Days, and Gilmore Girls all dealt with the topic.
And to some extent we've all encountered it to one degree or another. Those who have a support system either at home or elsewhere - survive it better than those who don't. Those who are the most different, who do not conform to the norm, or adapt to the group dynamic - are targeted.
Cyber-bullying as it states above is the most dangerous form of bullying and the hardest to stop - because it is so insidious. The Bully can hide behind another name.( bullying in fandom )
( my experience regarding serial work-place bullying )
( statistics on bullying and suicide in the US and UK )
From the excellent site: http://www.makeadifferenceforkids.org/cyberbullying.html
( Consequences of Cyberbullying )
( Why Do Kids Cyberbully? )
( What to do if you are being bullied online )
And finally two videos entitled - Bullied to Death - they died as a result of Bullying:
( Bullied to Death )
Today, is stand up against cyber bullying day. Wear purple - which I did. But no one noticed, because my work-place skews older than 45 and no one is really online. Thought I'd finish off the day with this post.
First off - what is cyber bullying? Because when I saw the responses I wondered if we all define it the same way. So, I did what any responsible internet poster/blogger does - I goggled it.
The first definition is from Olweus - the World's Foremost Prevention Against Bullying Program.
http://www.olweus.org/public/cyber_bullying.page
What is Cyber Bullying?
Cyber bullying is bullying which uses e-technology as a means of victimising others. It is the use of an Internet service or mobile technologies - such as e-mail, chat room discussion groups, instant messaging, webpages or SMS (text messaging) - with the intention of harming another person. ...
Cyber bullying has some rather unique characteristics that are different from traditional bullying:
( Read more... )
This brings up another question - what is bullying?
"A person is bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons, and he or she has difficulty defending himself or herself."
This definition includes three important components:
1. Bullying is aggressive behavior that involves unwanted, negative actions.
2. Bullying involves a pattern of behavior repeated over time.
3. Bullying involves an imbalance of power or strength.
Bullying can take on many forms. As part of the Olweus Bullying Questionnaire, students are asked if they have been bullied in any of these nine ways:
( Read more... )
What strikes me about the definitions is bullying is always about "power". Reminds me of something I told a work colleague today about a situation in which I was being bullied by project managers,
I said power. When someone gets power, doesn't matter how nice a person they are - the power goes to their heads and they start to wield it and not always in a nice or productive manner. We see it on fanboards with people who get well, big-headed. Or with Hollywood filmmakers, or politicians.
And the vast majority of bullies in school are kids who are cheerleaders, jocks, or "popular".
In our stories - we talk about it. Everyone notes it. From Huckleberry Finn where Tom Sawyer bullies Jim to Buffy the Vampire Slayer's Cordelia who relentlessly bullies Willow and Xander with the aid of her top minion Harmony. Notable children's books about bullying include Judy Bloom's excellent "Blubber", Robert Cormier's The Chocolat War, Fieldings' The Lord of the Flies,
the excellent To Kill A Mockingbird - where bullying is in some respects analogized to killing a mockingbird, Harriet the Spy, and countless others that I can't recall at this specific moment.
Television shows that have referenced bullying in various guises range from The Office to Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Glee, Popular, Veronica Mars, Freaks and Geeks, Square Pegs, Wonder Years, Happy Days, and Gilmore Girls all dealt with the topic.
And to some extent we've all encountered it to one degree or another. Those who have a support system either at home or elsewhere - survive it better than those who don't. Those who are the most different, who do not conform to the norm, or adapt to the group dynamic - are targeted.
Cyber-bullying as it states above is the most dangerous form of bullying and the hardest to stop - because it is so insidious. The Bully can hide behind another name.( bullying in fandom )
( my experience regarding serial work-place bullying )
( statistics on bullying and suicide in the US and UK )
From the excellent site: http://www.makeadifferenceforkids.org/cyberbullying.html
( Consequences of Cyberbullying )
( Why Do Kids Cyberbully? )
( What to do if you are being bullied online )
And finally two videos entitled - Bullied to Death - they died as a result of Bullying:
( Bullied to Death )