About that Elephant in the Room
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shadowkatHave come to the conclusion - after re-reading my last two entries - that I need to write shorter posts or just break up the information more. This stream of consciousness or spontaneous posting style - certainly has its drawbacks. Methinks, I'd have more readers if I wrote shorter posts or at the least more responses, then again, maybe not. When it comes to internet correspondence, people remain unpredictable. Spent two weeks (not the entire time of course, just about ten minutes here and there...took me at least five days just to notice - since I rarely check my userinfo any more) trying to figure out who defriended me (because my 86 readers went to 85), when I finally figured it out, spent the next two days trying to figure out why, this was after defriending them back of course, because you really don't want folks who've restricted their locked posts from your eyes to be reading your posts...well that, and the whole revenge thing. Truth is, knowing the person, it probably was nothing more than I've got 115 correspondents and I've got to kick a few to the curb to stay sane - heck, I've done that, haven't we all or rather those of us who friended more than 20 people. In some respects, not all, internet correspondence particularly on blogs is fairly impersonal and superficial. The rational part of me, knows that, the emotional part? Not so much. (This may be why I no longer defriend unless the person has defriended me first or royally pissed me off and I mean royally. Yes, I can be a vindictive little bitch, I admit it, even if it tends to hurt me more than anyone else. One of the things I hate most about being human is all these stupid emotional cracks or flaws.) [ETA: this in a nutshell is why I'm a bad editor, I can't edit without adding stuff and making the post incredibly long - if you think it's grown since you last read it? It's not your imagination.]
Talking to Wales today, and came to the realization that I like to pick at the elephant in the room, which in way could describe the taboo topics in the paragraph above - which may or may not get me into trouble.
I hate conflict, but I find the tension or unresolved conflict far more annoying. So will risk it, even if I live to regret it. Much prefer to reveal the elephant, mention how stinky it is, and suggest we might want to get rid of it and maybe clear the air...then sit around politely ignoring it, until someone goes nutty and screams there's an elephant in the room for crissakes! Wales likes to do it too, but she thinks it's out of devilish glee. Me? I just want to get rid of the damn elephant.
Speaking of elephants...I write about politics in the hopes, possibly pointless and naive, that I might change someone's mind. This feels somewhat silly, considering that politics are a bit like religion - people are stubborn about it. They want you to change your mind and agree with them. Why should they change their mind and agree with you? I know this. This is why I don't discuss politics at work or in most social situations like on the ride yesterday.
But on lj - I have my own private little soap box. If I can't do it here, where can I? One must have fun with one's soap box, after all. Also, the other reason - it's the only thing I can think of to do...to attempt to get people who may still be undecided but basically agree with how I view the world to well...you know. So sue me, I care about this upcoming Presidential Election - it is the first time I've actually felt hopeful about a Presidental Candidate. The prospect of Obama winning fills me with hope. Possibly false hope, I'm anything if not cynical about these things. But I'll worry about that next year.
Talking to Wales today, and came to the realization that I like to pick at the elephant in the room, which in way could describe the taboo topics in the paragraph above - which may or may not get me into trouble.
I hate conflict, but I find the tension or unresolved conflict far more annoying. So will risk it, even if I live to regret it. Much prefer to reveal the elephant, mention how stinky it is, and suggest we might want to get rid of it and maybe clear the air...then sit around politely ignoring it, until someone goes nutty and screams there's an elephant in the room for crissakes! Wales likes to do it too, but she thinks it's out of devilish glee. Me? I just want to get rid of the damn elephant.
Speaking of elephants...I write about politics in the hopes, possibly pointless and naive, that I might change someone's mind. This feels somewhat silly, considering that politics are a bit like religion - people are stubborn about it. They want you to change your mind and agree with them. Why should they change their mind and agree with you? I know this. This is why I don't discuss politics at work or in most social situations like on the ride yesterday.
But on lj - I have my own private little soap box. If I can't do it here, where can I? One must have fun with one's soap box, after all. Also, the other reason - it's the only thing I can think of to do...to attempt to get people who may still be undecided but basically agree with how I view the world to well...you know. So sue me, I care about this upcoming Presidential Election - it is the first time I've actually felt hopeful about a Presidental Candidate. The prospect of Obama winning fills me with hope. Possibly false hope, I'm anything if not cynical about these things. But I'll worry about that next year.
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Date: 2008-09-01 03:06 pm (UTC)When I recently asked her what she thought of Obama - expecting her to be happy Hillary was no longer an issue - she said that Obama scared her more than Hillary did. I seriously doubt polar bears would change her mind.