10 Snarky Lj posting rules to live by
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shadowkatSort of a slow work day...puttered a bit on my lj, which I should not be doing.
I keep getting pulled back into the Buffy fandom, which amuses me since about 70% of my flist has appeared to have drifted elsewhere, damn them. I suppose I could join another fandom, but honestly - one is enough. I wonder sometimes why we get obessive about things? House more or less supplied the answer this week - to distract ourselves from other things that we don't and may not want to think about. I.e. To not feel pain or boredom. The two at the moment seem interchangable. Also I think fandom has an odd way of making people feel less alone and connected - think about it, it is an ice breaker. Much safer to argue about Buffy than to argue about oh, politics, religion, racism, feminism, your work...not saying you shouldn't argue about the other things. Just that it is safer to avoid them. I'd rather get into a Buffy kerfuffle than a kerfuffle over well those other three things, having done both, I know whereof I speak.
Regarding LJ posting - 10 Snarky rules to live by (this is me poking fun at myself again):
1. Don't take anything personally. (hard but true) Seriously, they aren't upset with you just your perspective. (Can we still blame Shondra Rhimes for the overuse of the word "seriously"? If so, who can we blame "exactly" on?)
2. When ranting - use cut tags and lots of warnings.
3. When reading a rant - keep in mind you are reading a rant. Rants by definition are not rational. They are not supposed to make logical sense. They are pure emotion. Respond in disagreement at your own risk.
4. Take everything you read on the internet with a grain of salt. I mean everything. People lie, they don't mean to lie, but they lie...fool me once, shame on me, fool me twice..shame on ...okay does that statement ever make any sense?
5. When reading a snarky post like this one please keept in mind that every rule I'm listing I've broken at least once, okay more than once
6. Never respond to a rant or a snarky post with an angry disagreeing rant of your own. Unless you want to inspire your friend, the initial ranter, to kill you, albeit verbally. (You can however do this on your own journal, but keep in mind, they may still want to kill you and you may end up getting blasted as a result.)
7. Never assume that a random post you read on your flist has anything to do with you unless they deliberately name you. (ie. No fair attacking unless you are tagged).
8. Don't waste time worrying and fretting over things you cannot change or do anything about.
9. Just because no one posts a response to your lj - does not mean they don't like you. They might just be busy - with other things, like, you know, responding to the half a million comments in their own livejournal or trying to write a post in their own livejournal or ranting at someone else in their livejournal or having a life outside of the internet (yes, a few people actually have one, mind-boggling I know).
10. Repeat after me, disagreements are good things. They make us grow and become more interesting people. If we surrounded ourselves with people who agreed with us, we wouldn't be challenged ever. So, if someone has taken the time to post that they disagree with you than that means they care what you think and you matter, they are not just doing it to make you crazy.
I keep getting pulled back into the Buffy fandom, which amuses me since about 70% of my flist has appeared to have drifted elsewhere, damn them. I suppose I could join another fandom, but honestly - one is enough. I wonder sometimes why we get obessive about things? House more or less supplied the answer this week - to distract ourselves from other things that we don't and may not want to think about. I.e. To not feel pain or boredom. The two at the moment seem interchangable. Also I think fandom has an odd way of making people feel less alone and connected - think about it, it is an ice breaker. Much safer to argue about Buffy than to argue about oh, politics, religion, racism, feminism, your work...not saying you shouldn't argue about the other things. Just that it is safer to avoid them. I'd rather get into a Buffy kerfuffle than a kerfuffle over well those other three things, having done both, I know whereof I speak.
Regarding LJ posting - 10 Snarky rules to live by (this is me poking fun at myself again):
1. Don't take anything personally. (hard but true) Seriously, they aren't upset with you just your perspective. (Can we still blame Shondra Rhimes for the overuse of the word "seriously"? If so, who can we blame "exactly" on?)
2. When ranting - use cut tags and lots of warnings.
3. When reading a rant - keep in mind you are reading a rant. Rants by definition are not rational. They are not supposed to make logical sense. They are pure emotion. Respond in disagreement at your own risk.
4. Take everything you read on the internet with a grain of salt. I mean everything. People lie, they don't mean to lie, but they lie...fool me once, shame on me, fool me twice..shame on ...okay does that statement ever make any sense?
5. When reading a snarky post like this one please keept in mind that every rule I'm listing I've broken at least once, okay more than once
6. Never respond to a rant or a snarky post with an angry disagreeing rant of your own. Unless you want to inspire your friend, the initial ranter, to kill you, albeit verbally. (You can however do this on your own journal, but keep in mind, they may still want to kill you and you may end up getting blasted as a result.)
7. Never assume that a random post you read on your flist has anything to do with you unless they deliberately name you. (ie. No fair attacking unless you are tagged).
8. Don't waste time worrying and fretting over things you cannot change or do anything about.
9. Just because no one posts a response to your lj - does not mean they don't like you. They might just be busy - with other things, like, you know, responding to the half a million comments in their own livejournal or trying to write a post in their own livejournal or ranting at someone else in their livejournal or having a life outside of the internet (yes, a few people actually have one, mind-boggling I know).
10. Repeat after me, disagreements are good things. They make us grow and become more interesting people. If we surrounded ourselves with people who agreed with us, we wouldn't be challenged ever. So, if someone has taken the time to post that they disagree with you than that means they care what you think and you matter, they are not just doing it to make you crazy.
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Date: 2009-09-30 02:31 am (UTC)It can be difficult to navigate the murky fandom waters sometimes. Especially when a ranted topic starts to make a roundabout through different LJs.
There will be inevitable fuck-ups at some point. Fortunately, fandom has the memory of a cracked out ferret, so apologize as needed and learn and grow and all that jazz.
Just because no one posts a response to your lj - does not mean they don't like you.
Yep yep. I'm horrible at commenting to LJs. Especially when people post stuff I agree with...which is contrary but I'm more likely to comment to disagree than comment with a simple "Word" or whatnot.
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Date: 2009-09-30 02:44 am (UTC)The political ones they remember (I got a bit obsessed with politics in 2008). I am steering clear of the health care debate more or less because of that. (also I don't want to depress myself over something I can't do much about.)
Fandom tends to move on, which in a way is what I like about it.
(Well there are a few topics in the Buffy fandom that I have learned the hard way to steer clear of. )
I'm horrible at commenting to Ljs. Especially when people post stuff I agree with...
Sigh. So am I. So am I. Sorry to say. It's ironic, because I say I don't like conflict and arguments, but yet...my actions speak otherwise.
I think it's a time thing - I just don't have time to respond. And I tend to be wordy when I do. It seems silly to me for some reason to post a sentence. Sad but true. ;-)
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Date: 2009-09-30 03:18 am (UTC)Count me in as another who doesn't like conflict. But I do like debating stuff, so I'm usually more than happy to disagree with someone on some Buffy issue. But for me, debate =/= conflict. Though it does for some other people, I suppose.
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Date: 2009-09-30 04:18 pm (UTC)Yep. Two things not to bring up in polite discussion politics and religion. People aren't going to change their minds and if you push too hard, you could lose friends.
How liberal I am seems to depend on where I am and which group of people I'm interacting with, apparently.
But I do like debating stuff, so I'm usually more than happy to disagree with someone on some Buffy issue. But for me, debate =/= conflict
I think the two are different. I've had really good debates with people online. When Buffy was airing, I used to go out to dinner once a week with a fellow fan, and he and I would debate for hours. It was great fun.
But, debates can get derailed by emotion - when people feel too strongly about something or something someone inadvertently said pushed their buttons the wrong way.
They can also get derailed if the two people have opposing world views or are on completely different wavelengths. And I've seen them get derailed by semantics. I have had arguments with people online regarding the definition of "soul".
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Date: 2009-09-30 07:15 am (UTC)I actually don't like arguing/debating for the sake of it. Consensus with quibbles is better for me. That's probably why I never really got involved with posting on the general boards back in the day.
#9... good reminder
Date: 2009-09-30 07:22 pm (UTC)Re: #9... good reminder
Date: 2009-09-30 07:44 pm (UTC)For example I have had to actually go to my info page, click on cjlasky's name and check his journal to find stuff he posts (he posts once in a blue moon...heck not even that often and when he does, I often miss it.)
Re: #9... good reminder
Date: 2009-09-30 07:49 pm (UTC)then I was off line and out of town anyway (visiting College Station, Texas where my cousins' with all the babies were).
I just got back to Nacogdoches and I'm catching up w/lj, and everything online now.