Five Irritating Things
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shadowkatIrritating day. Five things that bugged me or gave me a tension head-ache in the kill me now department or can we just kill everyone else and move to a deserted island in the middle of the Pacific?
1. Do not talk to or treat people as if you think they are in the third grade and/or kindergarten - it comes across as patronizing.
2. While being detail-oriented is wonderful, being nit-picky is just plain irritating.
3. Why is it that people whine and rant more than complement or flatter? How hard is it to tell someone they did a great job or look great today? Kindness goes a long way, as does flattery.
4.You can't please everyone, it is a fact of life. Someone will always complain about something you did or did not do the way they would or the way they want you to do it. OR about something that irritated them. Best to ignore and tolerantly nod your head, catering to them is a losing battle. Except of course in those rare instances in which they have a legitimate complaint (which isn't always that easy to determine.) or where you have no choice unless you want to be unemployed and homeless.
[For example (I'd use my church list-serve or work but ..a) you wouldn't understand and b)not a good idea.): Half my flist hates it if I live journal cut tag anything outside of "spoilers" (apparently clicking on the cut-tag link slows down their computer or you get an error message - so that actually makes sense - happened to me this week, I was hating lj cut tags too and wishing people didn't use them, which was ironic), the other quarter is oddly nit-picky and thinks cut-tags should be used for anything over 400 characters, bullet points, religion, polls, politics, personal crap, or basically anything they aren't personally interested in. (I think these people spend too much time on twitter and Facebook - although you'd think that would annoy them more, it annoys me more - if you saw some of the crappy stuff people post about), then there's the group that wishes you'd just cut-tag spoilers, and finally the group that believes in "live and let live" - ie." Don't you frigging tell me or anyone else what to do in their lj or I will rip you a new one!" (I rather like this group and feel a need to lock them in a room with the nitpicky bunch. What? It would be fun!) Of the three? I think the group that insists on hiding spoilers makes the most sense. That and cut-tagging incredibly long, as in 2-15 page posts with lots of graphics which are impossible to download, is a legitimate complaint. Just keep in mind not everyone agrees with you. I know I did a poll on it once - there were quite a few people who hated cut-tags. ]
5. Generalizing is stupid. Making assumptions based on generalizations is asinine. Yet we all do it. Ugh. I'm half convinced that will be humanity's epitaph or mine.
1. Do not talk to or treat people as if you think they are in the third grade and/or kindergarten - it comes across as patronizing.
2. While being detail-oriented is wonderful, being nit-picky is just plain irritating.
3. Why is it that people whine and rant more than complement or flatter? How hard is it to tell someone they did a great job or look great today? Kindness goes a long way, as does flattery.
4.You can't please everyone, it is a fact of life. Someone will always complain about something you did or did not do the way they would or the way they want you to do it. OR about something that irritated them. Best to ignore and tolerantly nod your head, catering to them is a losing battle. Except of course in those rare instances in which they have a legitimate complaint (which isn't always that easy to determine.) or where you have no choice unless you want to be unemployed and homeless.
[For example (I'd use my church list-serve or work but ..a) you wouldn't understand and b)not a good idea.): Half my flist hates it if I live journal cut tag anything outside of "spoilers" (apparently clicking on the cut-tag link slows down their computer or you get an error message - so that actually makes sense - happened to me this week, I was hating lj cut tags too and wishing people didn't use them, which was ironic), the other quarter is oddly nit-picky and thinks cut-tags should be used for anything over 400 characters, bullet points, religion, polls, politics, personal crap, or basically anything they aren't personally interested in. (I think these people spend too much time on twitter and Facebook - although you'd think that would annoy them more, it annoys me more - if you saw some of the crappy stuff people post about), then there's the group that wishes you'd just cut-tag spoilers, and finally the group that believes in "live and let live" - ie." Don't you frigging tell me or anyone else what to do in their lj or I will rip you a new one!" (I rather like this group and feel a need to lock them in a room with the nitpicky bunch. What? It would be fun!) Of the three? I think the group that insists on hiding spoilers makes the most sense. That and cut-tagging incredibly long, as in 2-15 page posts with lots of graphics which are impossible to download, is a legitimate complaint. Just keep in mind not everyone agrees with you. I know I did a poll on it once - there were quite a few people who hated cut-tags. ]
5. Generalizing is stupid. Making assumptions based on generalizations is asinine. Yet we all do it. Ugh. I'm half convinced that will be humanity's epitaph or mine.
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Date: 2011-10-14 01:03 am (UTC)A month or so ago, I stopped at a Wal-Mart in Pocatello, ID and as I was walking out of the store, noticed a group of teenagers loitering around just outside the exit. As I passed, one of them called out to me "Hey! Love your hair!" Totally not sarcastic... just an honest compliment. I thanked him and walked on... then heard one of the other teenagers calling out to someone else that he liked their t-shirt. Near as I can tell, you had a group of bored teenagers hanging around dispensing random compliments to strangers. I think that made my day even more than receiving one of the compliments!
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Date: 2011-10-14 11:00 pm (UTC)A smile, an act of kindness goes a long way...I think people forget that everyone is doing time on planet earth and struggling in their own way.
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Date: 2011-10-14 03:26 am (UTC)or when they are planning on writing spoilers for a show I care about.
But everyone has their preferences and I wouldn't dream of telling someone else that they have to do what makes me comfortable (I might take them off my 'friends' list, so I don't have to look at their posts if I don't want to, if I find most of their posts annoying to me). There are more people I don't follow on twitter because their posts are boring (but I'll save their links under 'favorites' so I can check them out occasionally to see if they've done anything interesting lately).
I probably annoy people because I don't lj-cut when I first post, but then I go back a week later and put most of the post behind a cut so it doesn't take up so much of my page.... It is a like a personal housekeeping preference.
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Date: 2011-10-14 10:57 pm (UTC)And anal retentative people who have to have everything done their way! Make me crazy. Because there is no pleasing them. I appear to keep running into these people in my workplace.
The rule I follow - is to cut-tag long posts, spoilers, and lengthy polls or pictures. But there's a caveat - if you cut-tag too much, you get no comments because no one sees the post. Unless you are really good at headers and writing a brief summary or teaser (and I'm not always good at this.)
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Date: 2011-10-15 12:06 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-10-14 10:53 pm (UTC)Telling them not too - doesn't work.
I rarely put graphics in my posts - too much trouble. And when I do, try to put behind cut-tags, which sometimes work and sometimes don't.
Depends on the graphic.
When I first jumped on lj - people drove me nuts with the dang Quiz memes - I had dial-up back then and those dang Quiz memes would slow my system down to a crawl. Then they up-graded to you-tube videos. Which is when I discovered this nifty little tool - apparently lj makes it possible to block or not show graphics unless you click on them. So you can change your settings so that you don't view them unless you want to. You can also fix your settings so you can avoid seeing posts in any style but your own journal style for comments, etc. And you can set it so icons don't appear.
It's easier to do that way. People really hate to be told what to do in their journals, it makes them cranky.