* I tried to read the first book of Twilight and it just did not work for me. The writing was too close to how I wrote when I was 14. And the story was ...offensive to me. A wimpy girl whose life is defined by a guy. Ugh. But.. as was explained to me by an Aunt - it is a fantasy trope that appeals to many women...the idea of being protected, of swept off your feet by this dangerous but powerful man who will take care of you and treat you like a princess has a certain appeal. I get that. And judging people's fantasies...is a bit like judging their politics or religion...as long as they aren't hurting you or themselves? Who cares. Let them have their fun. It's like Shades of Grey - the woman who wrote it has a happy marriage, a loving hubby and two boys, so she makes her life a bit fuller by indulging in a little fantasy...don't we all?
*I'm careful who I'm open about my Buffy love to. I don't tell most people. Really don't share my cultural interests with most people. Like you, been kicked one too many times for it. I tend to like off-kilter things. (such as soap operas, comic books, sci-fantasy shows, young adult fantasy/sci-fi, romance novels, erotica, pulp noir mystery novels, etc. I also like "critically" acclaimed stuff. I'm eclectic or diverse in my taste. It bewilders people who try to pigeon hole me.)
*And I really dislike the anti-shipping stuff you see around, particularly as a lot of it seems to have an undercurrent of sexism in it.
True. Except...I was talking more about..snitty comments on it. People who are women or clearly feminist who just don't get shipping a relationship. OR the "wars". They don't understand why Spuffy fans resent Bangle fans and vice versa. They just don't get it. And they don't get the issues. (I do. Been a fan of soap operas and comic books since forever and no one does shipping wars like soap operas and marvel comic books. I've seen it in everything. And it's always tragically hopeless because as everyone who has ever watched a long-running serial knows...the writer never allows the hero to find true love. It's always unresolved. Shippers are pretty much masochists at heart, which is what the people who don't get it understand. The masochistic hope for something that won't happen. It's so...adorably human, hope. Hope that we will be the on who will the lottery. That our underdog sports team will win against all odds (yes, I'm a NY Mets fan, sad but true), and the hope that our ship, no matter the odds, will sail.)
* Similar on ATS, I just preferred the humor and characters and storyline better on Buffy, I'm not quite sure why. There's numerous reasons, but it all just comes down to..taste. I just happen to prefer grapefruit to orange juice for some reason.
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Date: 2012-04-05 02:55 am (UTC)* I tried to read the first book of Twilight and it just did not work for me.
The writing was too close to how I wrote when I was 14. And the story was ...offensive to me. A wimpy girl whose life is defined by a guy. Ugh. But..
as was explained to me by an Aunt - it is a fantasy trope that appeals to many women...the idea of being protected, of swept off your feet by this dangerous but powerful man who will take care of you and treat you like a princess has a certain appeal. I get that. And judging people's fantasies...is a bit like judging their politics or religion...as long as they aren't hurting you or themselves? Who cares. Let them have their fun. It's like Shades of Grey - the woman who wrote it has a happy marriage, a loving hubby and two boys, so she makes her life a bit fuller by indulging in a little fantasy...don't we all?
*I'm careful who I'm open about my Buffy love to. I don't tell most people.
Really don't share my cultural interests with most people. Like you, been kicked one too many times for it. I tend to like off-kilter things. (such as soap operas, comic books, sci-fantasy shows, young adult fantasy/sci-fi, romance novels, erotica, pulp noir mystery novels, etc. I also like "critically" acclaimed stuff. I'm eclectic or diverse in my taste. It bewilders people who try to pigeon hole me.)
*And I really dislike the anti-shipping stuff you see around, particularly as a lot of it seems to have an undercurrent of sexism in it.
True. Except...I was talking more about..snitty comments on it. People who are women or clearly feminist who just don't get shipping a relationship. OR the "wars". They don't understand why Spuffy fans resent Bangle fans and vice versa. They just don't get it. And they don't get the issues. (I do.
Been a fan of soap operas and comic books since forever and no one does shipping wars like soap operas and marvel comic books. I've seen it in everything. And it's always tragically hopeless because as everyone who has ever watched a long-running serial knows...the writer never allows the hero to find true love. It's always unresolved. Shippers are pretty much masochists at heart, which is what the people who don't get it understand. The masochistic hope for something that won't happen. It's so...adorably human, hope. Hope that we will be the on who will the lottery. That our underdog sports team will win against all odds (yes, I'm a NY Mets fan, sad but true), and the hope that our ship, no matter the odds, will sail.)
* Similar on ATS, I just preferred the humor and characters and storyline better on Buffy, I'm not quite sure why. There's numerous reasons, but it all just comes down to..taste. I just happen to prefer grapefruit to orange juice for some reason.