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The appeal of Tumblr continues to bewilder me. I think if the only way you engage in social media is via a smartphone, in which case it must be very appealing. But it's wickedly hard to follow. Nor do they appear to say anything.
Example? Topic: "Why isn't the Buffy/Xander pairing more popular?"
Here's the insanely interesting and thoughtful responses:
Or in summary: I love this post, reblog, reblog, I don't know why they didn't, reblog, reblog..
Now doesn't that just make you want to drop everything right now and go join Tumblr??? I do. Not like emails at work aren't head-ache inducing enough.
The most interesting bit? Not to mention creative? The names people have come up with to call themselves on tumblr. I'm particularly fond of robotthatscreams, parsnippletickle, cloverover-dover and cosmic-moon-power. (Oh I adore this sentence: robotthatscreams like this.) And ilikemyshipsnotyours is clever and honest. LOL!
My response to the question at hand?
Why isn't the Buffy/Xander pairing more popular?
1) Doyle Response:
Whedon nixed it because it was boring. (He wasn't wrong.) [That's actually a true story - they pushed it in S7, he nixed it. The rumor: He wanted to do a Wood/Buffy romance, but Gellar talked him out of it apparently...because he was planning on killing off Wood - which she also talked him out of. (I'm not sure I buy that one, Gellar had no clout the final season. If he wanted to do it, he would have.) But the Buffy/Xander bit was true.] Note - when you do a television series that has a superhero and two or three sidekicks, you never ever put the superhero with one of the sidekicks, because after a while its boring, there's no romantic tension. They never put the sidekick with the hero...you'd have to either kill off the sidekick or have some huge problem happen.
In Buffy they avoided it for three reasons, 1)boring. Happy relationships in teen horror drama soap operas are boring because the writers don't know how to create conflict that isn't melodramatic 2) what I mentioned above, and 3) the series writers loved doomed romantic relationships or romantic conflict. The heroine and her friends weren't permitted to be happy in love - their relationships were doomed to failure - because that's how the writers built conflict.
2) Watsonian Response:
The characters don't work together. They are too similar. Both are judgmental, with serious Daddy issues, and quippy. Opposites work better in drama.
I wrote a long essay about it - go here: http://www.oocities.org/shadowkatbtvs/bx_monsters.html
3.)Fandom wise? I was a Xander/Willow shipper until S4. Then I shifted to Willow/Tara, Xander/Anya.
Example? Topic: "Why isn't the Buffy/Xander pairing more popular?"
Here's the insanely interesting and thoughtful responses:
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Oh, I think that was a miscommunication in my wording. He spies her kissing Angel, but I didn’t mean it in the sense...
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Correction: Xander never spies on Buffy in Revelation. He noticed Angel walking inside his home and Xander peered...
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Lol, I’m not entirely sure if that’s true but I do know that season 7 was supposed to have Buffy/Xander but than the...
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In a LiveJournal thread I recently read that Buffy/Xander was supposed to be the romance of season 1 but that Angel was...
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Personally, I don’t ship them much because of how deeply I appreciate the beauty of their canon narrative which is so...
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Keep in mind I didn’t say “Xander never treats Buffy like a person”. I think he doesn’t do a good job when he’s busy...
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^^yesAnd not to mention the fact that Xander was overly controlling with all of his girlfriends. With both Cordelia and...
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To me Xander is a “nice guy” because high school Xander never got over Buffy turning him down. He didn’t handle it...
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Great post!
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I wish the show didn’t have such an open ending when it came to Buffy’s relationships, it would have been nice to see...
Or in summary: I love this post, reblog, reblog, I don't know why they didn't, reblog, reblog..
Now doesn't that just make you want to drop everything right now and go join Tumblr??? I do. Not like emails at work aren't head-ache inducing enough.
The most interesting bit? Not to mention creative? The names people have come up with to call themselves on tumblr. I'm particularly fond of robotthatscreams, parsnippletickle, cloverover-dover and cosmic-moon-power. (Oh I adore this sentence: robotthatscreams like this.) And ilikemyshipsnotyours is clever and honest. LOL!
My response to the question at hand?
Why isn't the Buffy/Xander pairing more popular?
1) Doyle Response:
Whedon nixed it because it was boring. (He wasn't wrong.) [That's actually a true story - they pushed it in S7, he nixed it. The rumor: He wanted to do a Wood/Buffy romance, but Gellar talked him out of it apparently...because he was planning on killing off Wood - which she also talked him out of. (I'm not sure I buy that one, Gellar had no clout the final season. If he wanted to do it, he would have.) But the Buffy/Xander bit was true.] Note - when you do a television series that has a superhero and two or three sidekicks, you never ever put the superhero with one of the sidekicks, because after a while its boring, there's no romantic tension. They never put the sidekick with the hero...you'd have to either kill off the sidekick or have some huge problem happen.
In Buffy they avoided it for three reasons, 1)boring. Happy relationships in teen horror drama soap operas are boring because the writers don't know how to create conflict that isn't melodramatic 2) what I mentioned above, and 3) the series writers loved doomed romantic relationships or romantic conflict. The heroine and her friends weren't permitted to be happy in love - their relationships were doomed to failure - because that's how the writers built conflict.
2) Watsonian Response:
The characters don't work together. They are too similar. Both are judgmental, with serious Daddy issues, and quippy. Opposites work better in drama.
I wrote a long essay about it - go here: http://www.oocities.org/shadowkatbtvs/bx_monsters.html
3.)Fandom wise? I was a Xander/Willow shipper until S4. Then I shifted to Willow/Tara, Xander/Anya.
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Date: 2015-07-27 10:58 pm (UTC)For me I still retain a wish that Xander and Cordelia had worked things out; they both made the other a better person for me. I have linked him with Faith though.
I didn't like Xander much at first, because he just seemed to be hurting Willow; over time I came to realise that I only really liked either when they were with someone else. He with Cordelia; she with Oz, then Tara, and then, after I started reading her in fanfic, Kennedy.
If not Cordy I think I could say I was a Xander/Renee fan; in some of my post-series verses I've borrowed her and paired them. I shudder at Xander & Dawn as a couple since, to me, they are like brother and sister and I find the pairing as creepy as Giles with any of the kids under his charge.
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Date: 2015-07-28 01:04 am (UTC)Sort of agree on what you state above on Xander.
I admittedly gave up on the comics after S8 completed its arc. That said, regarding Xander/Dawn?
I shudder at Xander & Dawn as a couple since, to me, they are like brother and sister and I find the pairing as creepy as Giles with any of the kids under his charge.
I agree. Not helped by the fact that the actor who portrayed Xander was 15-20 years older. He's about 48 now. MT is in her early twenties. Putting Xander with Dawn, was a bit like putting Cordelia with Connor.
Nick Brendan apparently agrees with us. He poked fun at it at Q&A at one of the Cons. (I watched it on YouTube, a while back.) It's hilarious, because he's sitting next to James Marsters at the time. And Marsters, who is about 5-6 years older than Brendan, had considered dating MT at one point, and is married to a woman that is MT's age.
You watch him in the clip try to crawl under the table.
I think Brendan may have convinced the current writers to break up that relationship, once he joined the comic writing team.
I think Xander worked best with Cordelia or maybe Anya, because he needed someone who could put him in his place. And you're right both Xander and Cordy did make each other better people.
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Date: 2015-07-28 08:17 am (UTC)http://kerkevik.livejournal.com/166047.html
It is on my old lj, but I'm starting to transfer relevant older posts, especially fics to my current one.
kerk
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Date: 2015-07-28 05:18 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-07-28 06:35 am (UTC)Most of my Faith fanfic is based around her and Tara as a couple, but there was a chemistry between the two; Faith was lashing out most at the people who tried to help her the most, so it was maybe understandable that she'd fin dit hardest to come to terms with what she nearly did to Xander; personally I believe if Angel hadn't intervened she would have murdered him.
If I do write a proper story about them as a couple the whole set of issues you mention will have to be dealt with.
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Date: 2015-07-28 06:54 am (UTC)Honestly, Faith was at her worst at the point of her attack against Xander, and if the show had dealt with that, I wouldn't have an issue. But instead they once again treat the rape of men as something comedic and nothing serious. (just like they did in regards to Buffy's attempted rape of Spike in Gone)
And because the writers can't take it serious, they didn't even consider it something that needed to be dealt with between the two of them. (forgetting that physically Faith is far stronger than Xander and that Xander would have been helpless against her.
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Date: 2015-07-28 01:17 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-07-28 01:19 am (UTC)At least with Voy...you clicked on a link and could see all the threads connected to it.
What you describe above sounds like way too much work. Tumblr for people with far too much time on their hands.
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Date: 2015-07-28 02:19 am (UTC)In other news, Damn kids! Get off my lawn! */curmudgeon*
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Date: 2015-07-28 04:02 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-07-28 05:19 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-07-28 05:22 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-07-28 02:14 am (UTC)If she argues with Riley, Spike or Angel - it might be an emotional case - or they might be adding a viewpoint to the story she lacks because they can check off different items on their bios and resumes... There's more room for depth in a storyline than you can get from a character that is already from the same demographic.
Which is why pretty much every TV show I can think of tries to pair its protagonists with characters that either have conflicting jobs, or are from totally different places.
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Date: 2015-07-28 05:25 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-07-28 04:00 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-07-28 05:56 am (UTC)She cannot have a discussion with Xander about their group that is independent of their personal history fighting together. As a writer, it's harder to add to the story that way.
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Date: 2015-07-28 01:03 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-07-28 11:33 pm (UTC)But, if your show is structure to emphasize and play off of romantic conflict or angst, then it's not going to work. Television series like Buffy, Vampire Diaries, Arrow, Flash, Gotham, Daredevil, pretty much all the genre shows and a lot of the cop procedural dramas, although not all of them, and possibly the Good Wife, won't make that work.
Depends on the writers, the dramatic structure of the series, and the emphasis on romance not to mention sex. Sexual tension requires conflict in a story. (Not so much in real life - in fact you don't want that in real life.)
I remember being at a meetup once...and people were asking how I could like a romantic relationship -- all they did was fight each other. And I responded, because it's impossible - so I find it interesting to watch. It's compelling. Watching people make out on screen isn't all that interesting. Sort of boring actually. Nothing happens. (Boring for the actors too apparently, which is why they often play practical jokes.) When they fight - there's unpredictability - we don't know who will win, if they will both kill each other, have sex, talk, what? Interesting. Do I want that in reality? No. Of course not.
Now in a series like Friday Night Lights, the focus isn't one the Coach and his Wife's relationship, it's on their relationships with everyone else. Same deal with Firefly, the emphasis wasn't on Zoe and Wash, it was on their interactions with everyone else as a couple and as individuals. But if the focus is on the couple and the angst, then you need conflict.
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Date: 2015-07-29 01:18 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-07-29 01:35 am (UTC)In reality, I hate conflict, and have little tolerance for melodrama and soap opera.
But I eat it up like candy on tv, books, and movies.
Sometimes I think fiction is heightened reality or exaggerated reality, playing out our fears, conflicts, dreams and worries in various what-if scenarios to see what works and what doesn't. And to ultimately provide a safe way of learning through others mistakes.
(ie. Dating the bad boy may result in great sex, but over the long term it doesn't have much staying power, or work out the way we'd hoped.)
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Date: 2015-07-29 02:06 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-07-28 11:42 pm (UTC)I think this is a good point. You need to have an interaction between the characters that furthers their arcs. Spike for example worked - because he had the sick mother as did Buffy. But differently, and how his sick mother affected him, and how her's affected her - had different results. Same deal with Angel - and the Daddy issues.
Through Spike and Angel - the writers could examine Buffy's parental issues, but in a way that did not make Buffy herself too dark.
Riley, Spike, and Angel provided the writers with ways to explore other things besides "romance" or "friendship" or "high school".
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Date: 2015-07-28 03:20 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-07-28 06:04 pm (UTC)I've been reading a lot of Xander/Giles lately because I enjoy how fanfic deals with that friendship that canon didn't pay much attention to, but when it starts to take a slash direction, I stop reading. I just want friendship/gen fics!
Right there with you...
Date: 2015-07-28 11:18 pm (UTC)In part, because the conflict isn't sexually based. (ie. will they or won't they?) The problem with romantic conflict is it tends to be fairly conclusive or it goes in a circle, break-up, get back together, break-up. (UGH). Serial writers, for some reason, don't tend to be that interested in writing romantic relationships between people who are also friends, and depicting conflicts that aren't just sexual in nature. It shouldn't just be about the sex.
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Date: 2015-07-28 11:23 pm (UTC)At any rate, I agree. There was a smidgen of a possibility between Season 1 and Season 2, but after "Prophecy Girl" it was clear that Buffy/Xander weren't going anywhere. I think that was the episode where he asks her to the Prom and she says, really not into you that way, Xander. Which of course sets him up perfectly to be the hero...by saving her from Angel.
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Date: 2015-07-28 05:59 pm (UTC)Tumblr isn't suited for any type of discussion. I do enjoy it for the political pictures and comics and think it's perfect for fanart.
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Date: 2015-07-28 11:06 pm (UTC)Twitter is also impossible to have any meaningful discussion on.
So I'm guessing the people who are chatting on these forums aren't really interested in having a meaningful discussion?
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Date: 2015-07-28 06:16 pm (UTC)I've just read it and it's a wonderful, wonderful essay. Thank you so much for sharing. :)
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Date: 2015-07-28 11:05 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-07-30 10:15 am (UTC)Thank you for sharing.
Sparrow :)
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Date: 2015-07-30 09:37 pm (UTC)And thanks, I'm glad you enjoyed it.