Falling down and getting up again.
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shadowkatDifficult weekend ahead. Now that I have an agent - she wants to take me to lots of places. One on Saturday, and four on Sunday. Somehow I have to find a way to fit church activities admist all of this apartment hunting, which admittedly gives me the heebie jeebies - or jitters. The apartment hunting not church.
Church last week had a rather annoying guest speaker that put me in a foul mood. Not comforting at all. Just snarky and holier than thou. Which I so don't need in church. I can get that on the internet and well at work and on tv, thank you very much. Luckily for me - it was a guest speaker.
Work aggravating. Everyone is grouchy. We all hate the Windows 2010 Word, Excel package. It's not that bad for MAC (as far as I can tell) but for Dell it is a nightmare. Can't find things. Documents won't open without shutting down the entire program and making it restart, then shutting it down again. Ugga bugga, indeed.
Add to the aggravation - two cold and rainy days...that smelled of old leaves and mud. Making me itchy and restless and a bit cranky.
Also...I've got a question for you all, it's rather general and I'm not even sure you've read this far or at all - so may not get any answers or just one or two.
What do you do when you realize that you are starting to, ahem, dislike a writer and a story thread/verse, characters that you loved to pieces? I'm not talking about something you casually like or a tv show you loved but never wrote about. I mean something that you invested in emotionally. Wrote meta on. Fanfic. Joined a fandom. Discussed to death. Drew pictures of.
Collected all the DVD's and stories about. Something you really loved. And then, wham...an episode, a comic, a novelization - something that the "original creator" - the writer you loved, creates or does with that story - makes you see it in a light...that well, causes you to feel
a sense of deep dissatisfaction and disappointment. And as time wears on...much like water and wind slowly eroding at rocks...you find your love for the characters, the verse and the writer eroding...until you wake up one day and think, I don't love this writer or his work any longer.
I don't even like it. It offends me. And you find yourself struggling with the feeling, because you don't want to dislike it, you want to like it, damn it! You want to...to hold on to what it felt like. But the more you try...it just doesn't quite work. And you think, uhm, okay, maybe I'll change my mind with the next episode or issue...maybe this is a passing phase, a mood...but it isn't. And well, you have this fandom you've joined. And they post comments to you only when you write about that show or that comic or that book. But you realize what you are writing is getting increasingly negative, increasingly ranty and snarky...and you feel like you might be alienating folks, losing friends, and you don't want to. You want to hold on to the fun. But...you really reallyhate have issues with what the writer is doing...to such a degree that you want to kick the writer or slap him upside the head and say, why? Why are you doing this to the characters I fell in love with? WHY!!! And you want to hurt this writer. You want this writer to feel your pain and your frustration. And you feel incredibly guilty for feeling this way, and think...life is too short and maybe I should just not ever read anything by this silly writer again. But you want to know the end of the story or tv show...so you hang in there...but it gets worse.
Has this ever happened to you? If so, what did you do? Did you go find another fandom? Or just ignore everything that soured you on the writer and focus on the things you loved? Or shrug and move away from it all, after engaging a bit of private grief?
Now that I've written all of the above, odd as it may sound? I'm not sure I want to know the answers? Or perhaps I do, just without any advice attached? Like "you should do this or that", or "I don't get invested in such and such..." or "maybe you are just looking at it the wrong way". I think what I want tonight, in my cool apartment, is comfort. Hugs. A blanket. Or a touch. Such as..."yes, feel that way too, totally". Or "I have felt that way. And you are not an idiot for falling in love with a fictional piece of work only to become disappointed and disillusioned in it, regardless of what that work is or was, or minor it may seem to the world. It meant something to you, and that's all that is important."
The problem with life sometimes I think is regardless of what we do, we are always navigating around pot-holes, shit, quick-sand, and mosquitos, to get to the rainbows and sunshine.
Church last week had a rather annoying guest speaker that put me in a foul mood. Not comforting at all. Just snarky and holier than thou. Which I so don't need in church. I can get that on the internet and well at work and on tv, thank you very much. Luckily for me - it was a guest speaker.
Work aggravating. Everyone is grouchy. We all hate the Windows 2010 Word, Excel package. It's not that bad for MAC (as far as I can tell) but for Dell it is a nightmare. Can't find things. Documents won't open without shutting down the entire program and making it restart, then shutting it down again. Ugga bugga, indeed.
Add to the aggravation - two cold and rainy days...that smelled of old leaves and mud. Making me itchy and restless and a bit cranky.
Also...I've got a question for you all, it's rather general and I'm not even sure you've read this far or at all - so may not get any answers or just one or two.
What do you do when you realize that you are starting to, ahem, dislike a writer and a story thread/verse, characters that you loved to pieces? I'm not talking about something you casually like or a tv show you loved but never wrote about. I mean something that you invested in emotionally. Wrote meta on. Fanfic. Joined a fandom. Discussed to death. Drew pictures of.
Collected all the DVD's and stories about. Something you really loved. And then, wham...an episode, a comic, a novelization - something that the "original creator" - the writer you loved, creates or does with that story - makes you see it in a light...that well, causes you to feel
a sense of deep dissatisfaction and disappointment. And as time wears on...much like water and wind slowly eroding at rocks...you find your love for the characters, the verse and the writer eroding...until you wake up one day and think, I don't love this writer or his work any longer.
I don't even like it. It offends me. And you find yourself struggling with the feeling, because you don't want to dislike it, you want to like it, damn it! You want to...to hold on to what it felt like. But the more you try...it just doesn't quite work. And you think, uhm, okay, maybe I'll change my mind with the next episode or issue...maybe this is a passing phase, a mood...but it isn't. And well, you have this fandom you've joined. And they post comments to you only when you write about that show or that comic or that book. But you realize what you are writing is getting increasingly negative, increasingly ranty and snarky...and you feel like you might be alienating folks, losing friends, and you don't want to. You want to hold on to the fun. But...you really really
Has this ever happened to you? If so, what did you do? Did you go find another fandom? Or just ignore everything that soured you on the writer and focus on the things you loved? Or shrug and move away from it all, after engaging a bit of private grief?
Now that I've written all of the above, odd as it may sound? I'm not sure I want to know the answers? Or perhaps I do, just without any advice attached? Like "you should do this or that", or "I don't get invested in such and such..." or "maybe you are just looking at it the wrong way". I think what I want tonight, in my cool apartment, is comfort. Hugs. A blanket. Or a touch. Such as..."yes, feel that way too, totally". Or "I have felt that way. And you are not an idiot for falling in love with a fictional piece of work only to become disappointed and disillusioned in it, regardless of what that work is or was, or minor it may seem to the world. It meant something to you, and that's all that is important."
The problem with life sometimes I think is regardless of what we do, we are always navigating around pot-holes, shit, quick-sand, and mosquitos, to get to the rainbows and sunshine.
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Date: 2010-11-06 06:16 pm (UTC)It is surprising to me that people who argued that BtVS S8 is not canon are far more invested in the comics than I am (because I did call them canon, and of course now I am not at all sure about that... lol). However I understand what you are going through, because even though I'm not feeling as you are about the BtVS comics, I still haven't gotten over my hatred of JK Rowlings 7th and final Harry Potter book.
After reading Deathly Hollows I ended up feeling that she really wasn't much of a writer and I not only couldn't reread that 7th book, I was finding it impossible to reread any of the previous ones. So I gave away my set of 1st editions..... BUT I found I still liked the movies, and I do plan to see the last two Harry Potter films (and I kind of hope they fix the fatal flaws in that last book).
Anyway I do know what you're going through, it is painful when something/someone you loved disappoints you and damages that love. It can destroy those happy memories... or at least leave them bitter sweet.
{{hugs}}
And I hope the weekend ends up being relaxing and productive (personally I'm home sick w/a cold).
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Date: 2010-11-07 03:14 am (UTC)I think the movies may benefit from splitting the book into two films. All I really remember of the last book is that it was very long and drug in places.
Canon...ah, I think it's hard to understand how people regard it.
For me? I guess part of me sees them as canon and part does not.
Best way to explain it? The comics were in my view - Whedon's take on what would happen next, how he viewed the story and how he'd continue it. So the fail in the comics...is well all Whedon.
(I'd hoped it was Meltzer or Allie or Jeanty...but no, it's Whedon, I know that now. I can't ignore it or deny it any longer.) The television series - both Angel and Buffy - on the other hand, I don't think were completely Whedon, I think he had less control over it - due to the network, other writers, and the producers and well, the actors and directors who did have an effect. Here - Whedon is in control. So on the canon issue?
This is the canon of Whedon. If that makes sense? Probably doesn't. At any rate - unfortunately for me, I was not just a fan of Buffy, I was also a fan of Joss Whedon. I think if I was only a fan of Buffy - I'd be reacting differently. (shrugs)