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Aug. 8th, 2019 07:55 pm1. I've been having an absurd argument with the folks on scans daily about whether Magneto can be Xavier's representative requesting amnesty from the humans in exchange for meds. Forgetting of course that the human ambassadors that the human governments sent are well also similar to Magneto.
My difficulty with scans daily is it is reminding of why I haven't been able to get involved with a good comic fandom.
It's very frustrating to be fannish about something and not be able to find like minded souls to share it with. DW may not be the place for it. I've tried Twitter -- but they have their own insane drama. (They are busy shipping characters and don't seem to understand the comics.) The one's on FB are gamers, which doesn't quite work either.
Have had better luck with people on Good Reads.
It's really frigging hard to find like-minded fans who share your fannish interest. I had to work hard to find the section of the Buffy fandom that I did. I ended up leap-frogging from site to site -- it wasn't until I started madly writing meta (because I found someone else who did it and sort of decided to attempt it myself), and madly posting it -- that I found a fandom. Meta gave me the fandom. Maybe I should start posting meta about the X-men? Eh, no...scans daily wants scans not meta.
2. The Myth of Self Control
Many of us assume that if we want to make big changes in our lives, we have to sweat for it.
But if, for example, the change is to eat fewer sweets, and then you find yourself in front of a pile of cookies, researchers say the pile of cookies has already won.
“Our prototypical model of self-control is angel on one side and devil on the other, and they battle it out,” Fujita says. “We tend to think of people with strong willpower as people who are able to fight this battle effectively. Actually, the people who are really good at self-control never have these battles in the first place.”
This idea was crystallized in the results of a 2011 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. The study tracked 205 people for one week in Germany. The study participants were given BlackBerrys that would go off at random, asking them questions about what desires, temptations, and self-control they were experiencing in the moment.
The paper stumbled on a paradox: The people who were the best at self-control — the ones who most readily agreed to survey questions like “I am good at resisting temptations” — reported fewer temptations throughout the study period.
To put it more simply: The people who said they excel at self-control were hardly using it at all.
Psychologists Marina Milyavskaya and Michael Inzlicht recently confirmed and expanded on this idea. In their study, they monitored 159 students at McGill University in Canada in a similar manner for a week.
If resisting temptation is a virtue, then more resistance should lead to greater achievement, right? That’s not what the results, pending publication in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science, found.
The students who exerted more self-control were not more successful in accomplishing their goals. It was the students who experienced fewer temptations overall who were more successful when the researchers checked back in at the end of the semester. What’s more, the people who exercised more effortful self-control also reported feeling more depleted. So not only were they not meeting their goals, they were also exhausted from trying.
“There’s a strong assumption still that exerting self-control is beneficial,” Milyavskaya, a professor at Carleton University, tells me. “And we’re showing in the long term, it’s not.”
I'm actually very good at self-control -- except when I get depressed or anxious, then self-control goes out the window and I buy things I shouldn't. I'm beginning to think this is human.
3. An Incredibly Clever Hack for People Who Want To Read More Books
( Read more... )
Hee Hee. Works better if you aren't at work and using FB as a way to deal with work stress.
4. How to Keep Criticism From Sinking Your Confidence -- Walt Whitman and the Discipline of the Creative Self
( Walt Whitman on handling Criticism )
My difficulty with scans daily is it is reminding of why I haven't been able to get involved with a good comic fandom.
It's very frustrating to be fannish about something and not be able to find like minded souls to share it with. DW may not be the place for it. I've tried Twitter -- but they have their own insane drama. (They are busy shipping characters and don't seem to understand the comics.) The one's on FB are gamers, which doesn't quite work either.
Have had better luck with people on Good Reads.
It's really frigging hard to find like-minded fans who share your fannish interest. I had to work hard to find the section of the Buffy fandom that I did. I ended up leap-frogging from site to site -- it wasn't until I started madly writing meta (because I found someone else who did it and sort of decided to attempt it myself), and madly posting it -- that I found a fandom. Meta gave me the fandom. Maybe I should start posting meta about the X-men? Eh, no...scans daily wants scans not meta.
2. The Myth of Self Control
Many of us assume that if we want to make big changes in our lives, we have to sweat for it.
But if, for example, the change is to eat fewer sweets, and then you find yourself in front of a pile of cookies, researchers say the pile of cookies has already won.
“Our prototypical model of self-control is angel on one side and devil on the other, and they battle it out,” Fujita says. “We tend to think of people with strong willpower as people who are able to fight this battle effectively. Actually, the people who are really good at self-control never have these battles in the first place.”
This idea was crystallized in the results of a 2011 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. The study tracked 205 people for one week in Germany. The study participants were given BlackBerrys that would go off at random, asking them questions about what desires, temptations, and self-control they were experiencing in the moment.
The paper stumbled on a paradox: The people who were the best at self-control — the ones who most readily agreed to survey questions like “I am good at resisting temptations” — reported fewer temptations throughout the study period.
To put it more simply: The people who said they excel at self-control were hardly using it at all.
Psychologists Marina Milyavskaya and Michael Inzlicht recently confirmed and expanded on this idea. In their study, they monitored 159 students at McGill University in Canada in a similar manner for a week.
If resisting temptation is a virtue, then more resistance should lead to greater achievement, right? That’s not what the results, pending publication in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science, found.
The students who exerted more self-control were not more successful in accomplishing their goals. It was the students who experienced fewer temptations overall who were more successful when the researchers checked back in at the end of the semester. What’s more, the people who exercised more effortful self-control also reported feeling more depleted. So not only were they not meeting their goals, they were also exhausted from trying.
“There’s a strong assumption still that exerting self-control is beneficial,” Milyavskaya, a professor at Carleton University, tells me. “And we’re showing in the long term, it’s not.”
I'm actually very good at self-control -- except when I get depressed or anxious, then self-control goes out the window and I buy things I shouldn't. I'm beginning to think this is human.
3. An Incredibly Clever Hack for People Who Want To Read More Books
( Read more... )
Hee Hee. Works better if you aren't at work and using FB as a way to deal with work stress.
4. How to Keep Criticism From Sinking Your Confidence -- Walt Whitman and the Discipline of the Creative Self
( Walt Whitman on handling Criticism )