Why I delete my own entries or comments..

[shadowkat]

This may or may not be stating the obvious, but it occurs to me that what is obvious to me may not be for anyone else.

I delete entries because often upon re-reading, I suddenly realize that what I wrote can be interpreted in a way that I never in a million years intended. Often in a way that makes me feel like a complete troll after I've re-read it.( This happened to me a lot on discussion boards, where I couldn't delete, and often spent several hours stressing over the responses I'd get. The nice thing about BC&S board was it was busy and never archived, so I knew the post would be gone within a few hours. ATPO? It was there forever...unless the board master and mama took pity on me or felt it was spoilery or nasty enough to warrant deletion (ie - caused an ensuing flame war that crashed the board - which actually seldom if ever happened.))

Does anyone else do or feel like this, I wonder?

Comments

[fresne.livejournal.com]

All the time.

Not just in writing. But at least some writing can be deleted.

[shadowkat67.livejournal.com]

Yep. Talking not so much. Unfortunately.

[embers-log.livejournal.com]

Well I am glad I read it before it was deleted... I'm not sure who you were afraid of offending, pretty much your flist agrees w/your POV (not like at the old Buffy boards where it was so easy to step on the toes of people shipping other pairings).

Personally I would be more inclined to delete the objectionable comments rather than deleting my post they (those total strangers who I owe nothing to, and whose feelings I don't particularly care about) are whining about. But that is just me.

[shadowkat67.livejournal.com]

I wasn't worried about offending anyone so much as being misinterpreted. When I re-read the entry, I realized that people could misinterpret what I said. Also, I have a lot of romance novelists on my flist, who might have misinterpreted my post as anti-romance novels which isn't really true, I do like them - I'm just very picky. Or anti-happy endings, which also isn't true.

Sometimes the written word can feel really limiting. Actually words in general can, written or spoken.

[embers-log.livejournal.com]

Here I am still hunting for the Twilight review, and then I remembered: it was the one you deleted!
*sigh*

[shadowkat67.livejournal.com]

Apparently, I didn't delete fast enough because people were discussing it?

At any rate, you've inspired me to rewrite it and do the much longer post I'd planned on doing. Regarding my thoughts on the topic.

Who was discussing it, by the way??

[embers-log.livejournal.com]

Oh I'm sure talimama had mentioned to you that a small cadre of Marsters Mobsters had gotten together in a yahoo group (we called it Friends of Vampires, it was formed many years ago! LOL)... anyway liluv had read some of 'Twilight' and she didn't hate it, but couldn't recommend it... And biffsbabe had only heard bad things about it (and hadn't been impressed w/an interview w/the author), so she was on the fence about reading it....
I hadn't even thought about reading it, and your recommendation had seemed to have been to NOT think about reading it... but of course I was looking to quote you, and couldn't. None of the old mobsters (listed here) ever post much of anything here at lj, but they have kept our little yahoo group going over the years.

[shadowkat67.livejournal.com]

Ah, sorry about that. And no, you really don't want to read this book. If I remember correctly you weren't a fan of the Buffy/Angel fanfic? Well this book is similar to that fanfic, except for the fact that the fanfic is actually better written.

[embers-log.livejournal.com]

I didn't even get into Buffy/Angel in the show, it seemed obvious and predictable to me (and in the third season they did nothing but tell each other they couldn't be together, so then it was actually boring). Tall dark and broody never did it for me.

But it isn't like I don't appreciate vampires (I just mailed a book off to you, you should get it before next weekend) with a sweet vampire in it!

li

[masqthephlsphr.livejournal.com]

I don't remember deleting any of your posts, but rahael's, more than once! I have been tempted a few times to delete my own comments when I realized they implied something very different from what I meant, but often they get replied to before I get a chance to delete, and more often than not, I just end up making a clarification.

Re: li

[shadowkat67.livejournal.com]

As far as I remember...you didn't. Course, I never asked, because didn't really know how and my posts never caused a flame war possibly because I would just disappear whenever things got too heated, much to the annoyance of a quite few posters, I'm certain. Sort of hard to argue with silence.

The only time I remember you deleting an entire thread - which I wasn't a part of - was an anti-Marti Noxon thread because it threatened to crash the board and was ripe with spoilers. (I think that's how you got spoiled regarding Tara's death...)

Re: li

[masqthephlsphr.livejournal.com]

I got spoiled for Tara's death when I had to change the subject line of a post that had that as the subject line. Ack, ack. The only entire thread I ever remember removing was a heated thread started by a passing troll. I regretted doing so, and after that, I let people turn those threads into mini-parties and just shoved them off into the archives when they got too long.