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shadowkat1. The difficulty about talking about certain things...is that everyone feels the need to relate them back to their own experience, when the truth is that some things just aren't relatable. Not everyone for example experiences sex the same way or has the same urges or the same fantasies or the same desires etc. Some people are monogamist -- they can only do it with one person, it has to be someone they love deeply and trust deeply, and have a commitment to -- otherwise it will not work. Others are more polygamist -- and can do it with a lot of different people, and love isn't an issue. And the spectrum in between. For some -- sex is a deeply intimate and personal thing, for others it's not.
Another example? Pain. There's been medical studies on this one. (There may be ones on sex too, I don't know, I haven't looked.)
(Correction, I did just look it up but alas, not a lot of links on sex...Did like this quote though from Planned Parenthood:
There’s no amount of sex that’s considered “normal” — everyone’s different. How often you have sex depends on a lot of things, like whether you have a partner, what else is going on in your life, and how strong your sex drive (your desire to have sex) is.
People have different sex drives. Your own sex drive can change based on things like stress, medications you take, and other physical, emotional, and lifestyle factors. Some people want to have sex every day or more than once a day, and some people hardly ever want to have sex. People who don't experience any sexual attraction for anyone may call themselves asexual.
(So if you've been attracted to a person any person -- it is safe to say that you are not asexual.) And this The Science of Sexual Arosal in American Psychological Association. ]
* MRI Shows that People Feel Pain Differently
June 23, 2003 -- Back pain, foot pain, head pain -- the human body is no stranger to pain. But brain scans show not everyone feels pain the same way, a new study shows.
The study, which could lead to better pain management, appears in the latest Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.
"We have all met people who seem very sensitive to pain as well as those who appear to tolerate pain very well," says lead researcher Robert C. Coghill, PhD, a professor of neurobiology and anatomy at Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center, in a news release.
Patients are asked to rate their pain -- on a one to 10 scale -- so doctors can prescribe medications for pain management. "Until now, there was no objective evidence that could confirm that these individual differences in pain sensitivity are, in fact, real," he says.
The most difficult aspect of treating pain has been having confidence in patients' reports of pain, says Coghill. These findings confirm that the level of pain intensity can be seen in brain activity.
The study itself included 17 healthy men and women who agreed to have a computer-controlled heat stimulator placed on a leg. While researchers watched each patient's brain activity -- via what's known as functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) -- the device heated a small patch of their skin to a temperature most people find painful.
The volunteers reported very different experiences of pain, reports Coghill. The least-sensitive person rated the pain around "one" while the most-sensitive person rated it as a "nine."
Their brains reflected the differences, he explains. Those who gave a higher pain number had greater activation in the "pain" brain area; those with the least sensitivity had less brain activity.
The pain "experience" is likely due to a combination of factors, like the person's past experience with pain, his or her emotional state when experiencing the pain, and the person's expectations regarding pain, he adds.
In prescribing medications for pain management, doctors can trust what their patients are saying about the intensity of their pain, he says.
* Brain imaging confirms that people experience pain differently
* Not Everyone Hurts the Same Way - LA Times
"Pain is private. Unlike blood pressure or temperature or other symptoms easily measured and defined, the physical reaction to unpleasant stimuli is hard to quantify or predict. It varies from person to person, with each individual describing pain — and its intensity — differently.
But that private perception can make the difference between a trip to the medicine cabinet for an aspirin or a trip to the doctor’s office for something much stronger.
FOR THE RECORD:
Pain perception: An article in Monday’s Health section about how people feel pain differently included a quotation that read, “If you took a portable radio that needs a AAA battery and you put in a large D battery, you could burn the circuit out or cause static.” While in some instances changing the power supply in a circuit could damage the circuit, a device powered by a AAA battery would simply run for a longer time when powered by a D battery. —
Researchers study pain not to separate whiners from stoics but to understand why pain varies and, eventually, create individually tailored treatments for the many specific ailments that fall under the umbrella of pain.
If you place your hand on a metal plate that slowly heats up, you’ll reach your pain threshold when the heat first feels painful. Keep your hand on the heating plate until you can’t take the pain any more and you’ve found your pain tolerance. Threshold and tolerance are studied separately, and researchers have found consistent differences in how people report both.
The reasons for such differences are both psychological and biological — personal expectations, societal norms, genetics, hormones and even how much sleep you get. All have implications for pain treatment.
Genetics
Genes determine much of how we perceive pain because all of the bits and pieces of the nervous system are built from instructions in the genetic code, which varies slightly from person to person.
But a boy in Pakistan who can pass knives through his arm without feeling pain and a woman in China who experiences the intense, burning pain of erythromelalgia have one thing in common — mutations in the same gene. This gene, SCN9A, which has been the focus of a flurry of recent pain research, holds the code for a type of molecule, called a sodium channel, on the surface of nerve cells. Touch something painful, such as a hot plate, and a sodium channel opens a gate that allows signals to run to your brain, which interprets these signals as pain.
In the body, sodium channels are the gatekeepers for many signals in many different kinds of tissues. Dr. Stephen Waxman, a neurology professor at Yale University and the Department of Veterans Affairs, likens the sodium channels of the nervous system to batteries: “If you took a portable radio that needs a AAA battery and you put in a large D battery, you could burn the circuit out or cause static.”
Because such extreme differences in pain perception boiled down to the same gene, researchers decided to look at whether it affects pain perception in people without pain disorders. In a study published in January, they found that people who had a normal variation in the gene also had higher pain thresholds. For those with the variation in both of their copies of the gene, thresholds were even higher.
This gene has been particularly well-researched, but other studies are focusing on additional genes. “I think that there is going to be a number of other pain genes, but it may not be more than a handful that influence pain threshold, and I bet they’ll all come out in the next two years,” says Dr. C. Geoffrey Woods, a geneticist at the University of Cambridge and one author of the recent study.
Age
Pain can be very different in infancy than in old age. Until the last two decades of the 20th century, it was thought that babies didn’t feel pain. Infants were not given anesthesia during surgery because doctors considered it unnecessary for pain control and because they feared a potentially lethal anesthesia overdose. Medical opinion has since reversed.
“Not only do they experience pain, but the more pain they experience, that influences their perception of pain as they get older,” says Allan Basbaum, professor and chairman of anatomy at UC San Francisco and editor in chief of the journal Pain. More pain early on means a higher sensitivity to pain later.
Studies of pain sensitivity in elderly patients show that they have a higher threshold for brief exposure to superficial pain, such as heat, in part because peripheral nerves become less sensitive as we age. However, the elderly are more sensitive to deep muscular pain, and some studies suggest that their biological pain control systems don’t work as quickly as in younger patients, says Roger Fillingim, a psychologist and professor of community dentistry and behavioral science in the University of Florida College of Dentistry.
Mood
Like old age, depression can increase a person’s threshold for brief pain, says pain researcher Fillingim, although some studies have shown conflicting results. There is widespread agreement, however, that depression lowers pain tolerance.
And that doesn’t just go for the truly depressed: making people temporarily unhappy by showing them sad photographs also increases pain sensitivity.
The mood-and-pain-perception link is bad news for those who dread the dentist’s drill. People who are anxious about pain become more pain-sensitive in the situations that evoke their pain-related anxiety, Fillingim says. General anxiety, however, does not have much effect on pain sensitivity.
Researchers speculate that chemicals in the brain, such as serotonin, may be involved in both mood and pain perception. The exact link between pain and depression is uunclear, but “managing depression always increases pain control,” Woods says.
Sleep
It may come as no surprise that pain can keep you up at night, but the relationship appears to be two-way: Those missed Zs can increase pain sensitivity.
Like mood, sleep is affected by brain chemistry.
Chronic pain conditions such as fibromyalgia and irritable bowel syndrome are often tied to sleep disturbances.
In a June 2009 study of patients with temporomandibular joint disorder, researchers from Johns Hopkins University and other institutions found that patients who also had a certain type of insomnia had significantly lower pain thresholds. In a 2008 study, the same team found that burn patients who had insomnia reported more severe, longer-lasting pain than those who fell asleep promptly.
Gender and hormones
Scientists have known for a few decades that men and women feel pain differently. “With standard pain stimuli in the lab, women have both a lower pain threshold and a lower pain tolerance,” Fillingim says. “However, there is controversy about what these findings mean in real life or with actual clinical pain.”
Some reported differences are due to gender roles — men being macho and women being more willing to admit to pain, Fillingim says, “but even if you control for gender role, the sex difference is still there.”
There may be both biological and psychological reasons behind these differences. Research shows sex hormones seem to play a role in pain perception, with multiple studies indicating that pain thresholds rise when women are in the later part of the menstrual cycle, when estrogen levels are higher.
Psychologically, different pain coping mechanisms may be used by men and women, contributing to the measured differences in pain perception.
Ethnicity
Differences in pain sensitivity have also been measured among ethnic groups.
In the U.S., minority groups report more pain from certain conditions, such as osteoarthritis, than do the majority non-Latino whites. However, minority groups are also less likely to receive treatment for pain in the first place, which may mean they are more likely to develop chronic pain.
Research on pain threshold and tolerances is more limited for ethnicity than for gender, but some studies report lower pain tolerance in African Americans than in whites, although pain thresholds are similar.
The differences may be more cultural than biological. Fillingim points to differences in trust: In a typical pain study, participants touch a surface that heats up until the maximum pain tolerance is reached and the participant pushes a button to stop the experiment. “Now, if I’m somebody who doesn’t trust the experimenter, I might go ahead and press it early just to make sure they turn it off, and there is evidence in the literature in general that African Americans mistrust medical researchers more than whites do,” Fillingim says.
Psychological factors
Researchers are just beginning to reveal the full extent to which the biology and psychology of pain are interwoven, but it’s clear that expectations and attention are major players.
When it comes to pain, what you expect is what you get. On the whole, when people expect to have more pain, they have more pain, and when they expect to have less, they actually have less, Fillingim says.
Expectations can work in patients’ favor when it comes to pain management: the well-known placebo effect means that when someone expects that a treatment will work, it tends to work better than if the person expects that it will not work. This goes for sham treatments and genuine treatments.
One potential way to circumvent expectations is a healthy dose of distraction. Researchers at the University of Washington report that immersive virtual reality games significantly lower the pain reported by burn patients during wound care."
health@latimes.com
I find it reassuring in a way to know this. And the gist? Yes we're different.
Moral: Don't compare yourself to other people. It's impossible and just makes you miserable.
2. 38 Wonderful Words With No English Equivalent
Hee.
Here's a sampling...of some of my favs. I particularly like Kummerspeck and Tartle.
1. Kummerspeck (German)
Excess weight gained from emotional overeating. Literally, grief bacon.
2. Shemomedjamo (Georgian)
You know when you’re really full, but your meal is just so delicious, you can’t stop eating it? The Georgians feel your pain. This word means, “I accidentally ate the whole thing."
3. Tartle (Scots)
The nearly onomatopoeic word for that panicky hesitation just before you have to introduce someone whose name you can't quite remember.
4. Mamihlapinatapai (Yaghan language of Tierra del Fuego)
This word captures that special look shared between two people, when both are wishing that the other would do something that they both want, but neither want to do.
5. Backpfeifengesicht (German)
A face badly in need of a fist.
6. Iktsuarpok (Inuit)
You know that feeling of anticipation when you’re waiting for someone to show up at your house and you keep going outside to see if they’re there yet? This is the word for it.
28. Boketto (Japanese)
It’s nice to know that the Japanese think enough of the act of gazing vacantly into the distance without thinking to give it a name.
3. Why You Never See Your Friends Any More
I doubt this is the reason, but it's reassuring to know I'm not the only one.
4. Why Office Worker Can't Sleep and Why That's Bad
Hardly surprising. Too much blue light and not enough sunlight. I have very little during the day at work. And everyone around me struggles with sleep as well. Meanwhile the work place keeps sending out safety advisories on getting enough sleep. I'd like to send them this article -- if you made it possible for everyone to get sunlight, and work more from home with flexible hours -- then you wouldn't have a problem.
Sort of hard to do for a huge organization.
5. Founders removal from office is not the only purpose of impeachment
Another example? Pain. There's been medical studies on this one. (There may be ones on sex too, I don't know, I haven't looked.)
(Correction, I did just look it up but alas, not a lot of links on sex...Did like this quote though from Planned Parenthood:
There’s no amount of sex that’s considered “normal” — everyone’s different. How often you have sex depends on a lot of things, like whether you have a partner, what else is going on in your life, and how strong your sex drive (your desire to have sex) is.
People have different sex drives. Your own sex drive can change based on things like stress, medications you take, and other physical, emotional, and lifestyle factors. Some people want to have sex every day or more than once a day, and some people hardly ever want to have sex. People who don't experience any sexual attraction for anyone may call themselves asexual.
(So if you've been attracted to a person any person -- it is safe to say that you are not asexual.) And this The Science of Sexual Arosal in American Psychological Association. ]
* MRI Shows that People Feel Pain Differently
June 23, 2003 -- Back pain, foot pain, head pain -- the human body is no stranger to pain. But brain scans show not everyone feels pain the same way, a new study shows.
The study, which could lead to better pain management, appears in the latest Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.
"We have all met people who seem very sensitive to pain as well as those who appear to tolerate pain very well," says lead researcher Robert C. Coghill, PhD, a professor of neurobiology and anatomy at Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center, in a news release.
Patients are asked to rate their pain -- on a one to 10 scale -- so doctors can prescribe medications for pain management. "Until now, there was no objective evidence that could confirm that these individual differences in pain sensitivity are, in fact, real," he says.
The most difficult aspect of treating pain has been having confidence in patients' reports of pain, says Coghill. These findings confirm that the level of pain intensity can be seen in brain activity.
The study itself included 17 healthy men and women who agreed to have a computer-controlled heat stimulator placed on a leg. While researchers watched each patient's brain activity -- via what's known as functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) -- the device heated a small patch of their skin to a temperature most people find painful.
The volunteers reported very different experiences of pain, reports Coghill. The least-sensitive person rated the pain around "one" while the most-sensitive person rated it as a "nine."
Their brains reflected the differences, he explains. Those who gave a higher pain number had greater activation in the "pain" brain area; those with the least sensitivity had less brain activity.
The pain "experience" is likely due to a combination of factors, like the person's past experience with pain, his or her emotional state when experiencing the pain, and the person's expectations regarding pain, he adds.
In prescribing medications for pain management, doctors can trust what their patients are saying about the intensity of their pain, he says.
* Brain imaging confirms that people experience pain differently
* Not Everyone Hurts the Same Way - LA Times
"Pain is private. Unlike blood pressure or temperature or other symptoms easily measured and defined, the physical reaction to unpleasant stimuli is hard to quantify or predict. It varies from person to person, with each individual describing pain — and its intensity — differently.
But that private perception can make the difference between a trip to the medicine cabinet for an aspirin or a trip to the doctor’s office for something much stronger.
FOR THE RECORD:
Pain perception: An article in Monday’s Health section about how people feel pain differently included a quotation that read, “If you took a portable radio that needs a AAA battery and you put in a large D battery, you could burn the circuit out or cause static.” While in some instances changing the power supply in a circuit could damage the circuit, a device powered by a AAA battery would simply run for a longer time when powered by a D battery. —
Researchers study pain not to separate whiners from stoics but to understand why pain varies and, eventually, create individually tailored treatments for the many specific ailments that fall under the umbrella of pain.
If you place your hand on a metal plate that slowly heats up, you’ll reach your pain threshold when the heat first feels painful. Keep your hand on the heating plate until you can’t take the pain any more and you’ve found your pain tolerance. Threshold and tolerance are studied separately, and researchers have found consistent differences in how people report both.
The reasons for such differences are both psychological and biological — personal expectations, societal norms, genetics, hormones and even how much sleep you get. All have implications for pain treatment.
Genetics
Genes determine much of how we perceive pain because all of the bits and pieces of the nervous system are built from instructions in the genetic code, which varies slightly from person to person.
But a boy in Pakistan who can pass knives through his arm without feeling pain and a woman in China who experiences the intense, burning pain of erythromelalgia have one thing in common — mutations in the same gene. This gene, SCN9A, which has been the focus of a flurry of recent pain research, holds the code for a type of molecule, called a sodium channel, on the surface of nerve cells. Touch something painful, such as a hot plate, and a sodium channel opens a gate that allows signals to run to your brain, which interprets these signals as pain.
In the body, sodium channels are the gatekeepers for many signals in many different kinds of tissues. Dr. Stephen Waxman, a neurology professor at Yale University and the Department of Veterans Affairs, likens the sodium channels of the nervous system to batteries: “If you took a portable radio that needs a AAA battery and you put in a large D battery, you could burn the circuit out or cause static.”
Because such extreme differences in pain perception boiled down to the same gene, researchers decided to look at whether it affects pain perception in people without pain disorders. In a study published in January, they found that people who had a normal variation in the gene also had higher pain thresholds. For those with the variation in both of their copies of the gene, thresholds were even higher.
This gene has been particularly well-researched, but other studies are focusing on additional genes. “I think that there is going to be a number of other pain genes, but it may not be more than a handful that influence pain threshold, and I bet they’ll all come out in the next two years,” says Dr. C. Geoffrey Woods, a geneticist at the University of Cambridge and one author of the recent study.
Age
Pain can be very different in infancy than in old age. Until the last two decades of the 20th century, it was thought that babies didn’t feel pain. Infants were not given anesthesia during surgery because doctors considered it unnecessary for pain control and because they feared a potentially lethal anesthesia overdose. Medical opinion has since reversed.
“Not only do they experience pain, but the more pain they experience, that influences their perception of pain as they get older,” says Allan Basbaum, professor and chairman of anatomy at UC San Francisco and editor in chief of the journal Pain. More pain early on means a higher sensitivity to pain later.
Studies of pain sensitivity in elderly patients show that they have a higher threshold for brief exposure to superficial pain, such as heat, in part because peripheral nerves become less sensitive as we age. However, the elderly are more sensitive to deep muscular pain, and some studies suggest that their biological pain control systems don’t work as quickly as in younger patients, says Roger Fillingim, a psychologist and professor of community dentistry and behavioral science in the University of Florida College of Dentistry.
Mood
Like old age, depression can increase a person’s threshold for brief pain, says pain researcher Fillingim, although some studies have shown conflicting results. There is widespread agreement, however, that depression lowers pain tolerance.
And that doesn’t just go for the truly depressed: making people temporarily unhappy by showing them sad photographs also increases pain sensitivity.
The mood-and-pain-perception link is bad news for those who dread the dentist’s drill. People who are anxious about pain become more pain-sensitive in the situations that evoke their pain-related anxiety, Fillingim says. General anxiety, however, does not have much effect on pain sensitivity.
Researchers speculate that chemicals in the brain, such as serotonin, may be involved in both mood and pain perception. The exact link between pain and depression is uunclear, but “managing depression always increases pain control,” Woods says.
Sleep
It may come as no surprise that pain can keep you up at night, but the relationship appears to be two-way: Those missed Zs can increase pain sensitivity.
Like mood, sleep is affected by brain chemistry.
Chronic pain conditions such as fibromyalgia and irritable bowel syndrome are often tied to sleep disturbances.
In a June 2009 study of patients with temporomandibular joint disorder, researchers from Johns Hopkins University and other institutions found that patients who also had a certain type of insomnia had significantly lower pain thresholds. In a 2008 study, the same team found that burn patients who had insomnia reported more severe, longer-lasting pain than those who fell asleep promptly.
Gender and hormones
Scientists have known for a few decades that men and women feel pain differently. “With standard pain stimuli in the lab, women have both a lower pain threshold and a lower pain tolerance,” Fillingim says. “However, there is controversy about what these findings mean in real life or with actual clinical pain.”
Some reported differences are due to gender roles — men being macho and women being more willing to admit to pain, Fillingim says, “but even if you control for gender role, the sex difference is still there.”
There may be both biological and psychological reasons behind these differences. Research shows sex hormones seem to play a role in pain perception, with multiple studies indicating that pain thresholds rise when women are in the later part of the menstrual cycle, when estrogen levels are higher.
Psychologically, different pain coping mechanisms may be used by men and women, contributing to the measured differences in pain perception.
Ethnicity
Differences in pain sensitivity have also been measured among ethnic groups.
In the U.S., minority groups report more pain from certain conditions, such as osteoarthritis, than do the majority non-Latino whites. However, minority groups are also less likely to receive treatment for pain in the first place, which may mean they are more likely to develop chronic pain.
Research on pain threshold and tolerances is more limited for ethnicity than for gender, but some studies report lower pain tolerance in African Americans than in whites, although pain thresholds are similar.
The differences may be more cultural than biological. Fillingim points to differences in trust: In a typical pain study, participants touch a surface that heats up until the maximum pain tolerance is reached and the participant pushes a button to stop the experiment. “Now, if I’m somebody who doesn’t trust the experimenter, I might go ahead and press it early just to make sure they turn it off, and there is evidence in the literature in general that African Americans mistrust medical researchers more than whites do,” Fillingim says.
Psychological factors
Researchers are just beginning to reveal the full extent to which the biology and psychology of pain are interwoven, but it’s clear that expectations and attention are major players.
When it comes to pain, what you expect is what you get. On the whole, when people expect to have more pain, they have more pain, and when they expect to have less, they actually have less, Fillingim says.
Expectations can work in patients’ favor when it comes to pain management: the well-known placebo effect means that when someone expects that a treatment will work, it tends to work better than if the person expects that it will not work. This goes for sham treatments and genuine treatments.
One potential way to circumvent expectations is a healthy dose of distraction. Researchers at the University of Washington report that immersive virtual reality games significantly lower the pain reported by burn patients during wound care."
health@latimes.com
I find it reassuring in a way to know this. And the gist? Yes we're different.
Moral: Don't compare yourself to other people. It's impossible and just makes you miserable.
2. 38 Wonderful Words With No English Equivalent
Hee.
Here's a sampling...of some of my favs. I particularly like Kummerspeck and Tartle.
1. Kummerspeck (German)
Excess weight gained from emotional overeating. Literally, grief bacon.
2. Shemomedjamo (Georgian)
You know when you’re really full, but your meal is just so delicious, you can’t stop eating it? The Georgians feel your pain. This word means, “I accidentally ate the whole thing."
3. Tartle (Scots)
The nearly onomatopoeic word for that panicky hesitation just before you have to introduce someone whose name you can't quite remember.
4. Mamihlapinatapai (Yaghan language of Tierra del Fuego)
This word captures that special look shared between two people, when both are wishing that the other would do something that they both want, but neither want to do.
5. Backpfeifengesicht (German)
A face badly in need of a fist.
6. Iktsuarpok (Inuit)
You know that feeling of anticipation when you’re waiting for someone to show up at your house and you keep going outside to see if they’re there yet? This is the word for it.
28. Boketto (Japanese)
It’s nice to know that the Japanese think enough of the act of gazing vacantly into the distance without thinking to give it a name.
3. Why You Never See Your Friends Any More
I doubt this is the reason, but it's reassuring to know I'm not the only one.
4. Why Office Worker Can't Sleep and Why That's Bad
Hardly surprising. Too much blue light and not enough sunlight. I have very little during the day at work. And everyone around me struggles with sleep as well. Meanwhile the work place keeps sending out safety advisories on getting enough sleep. I'd like to send them this article -- if you made it possible for everyone to get sunlight, and work more from home with flexible hours -- then you wouldn't have a problem.
Sort of hard to do for a huge organization.
5. Founders removal from office is not the only purpose of impeachment
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Date: 2019-10-14 02:06 pm (UTC)Words with no English equivalent. My favorite from Russian is poshlost which is sometimes translated as 'banality' but it's more like a satisfaction with banality, like the world in which most commercials exist, where everyone smiles and chats enthusiastically over the laundry soap, the kids behave like angels because they just got kid's meals at Burger-Doodle, the whole street stops and admires your new shoes from Worldwide-Web-o'-Clodhoppers, and so-on.
Pain: All I know is that things that were mildly uncomfortable when I was in my twenties, hurt like hell now. Like a foot going to sleep: instead of pins and needles, it's straight up pain, now. On the other hand, real pain seems to fade away a lot faster now that I'm older.
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Date: 2019-10-14 03:53 pm (UTC)From what I've been reading in Psychology Today, pain is often intensified by lack of distractions and/or anxiety. CBD (a cousin to THC aka marijuana but that lacks the intoxicating affects of marijuana, you can't get high on CBD) calms the neurotransmitters that cause anxiety, either associated with pain or other things, and can often lessen the pain.
Although, I agree -- things that I barely noticed when I was younger, hurt more now. The nerves seem to be more prominent or something. I also shake more now than I did when I was younger (the essential tremor which is nerve related). The CBD does calm it. It also alievates depression and anxiety.
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Date: 2019-10-14 06:28 pm (UTC)*Hugs you*
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Date: 2019-10-14 07:53 pm (UTC)*hugs you back* ;-)
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Date: 2019-10-15 03:32 pm (UTC)Further to that article I'd mention people working even when they're home. The first year Mike took his new job he was gone most all day every day but was working all day on the weekends too. Two years into it he now has a more normal schedule, and him being home is better than his not being here. But there are still days like this one where he's gone before I get up and comes home late, then spends another hour or so dealing with email and getting ready for bed so that we may have half an hour of time together.
Good article, thanks for the link.
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Date: 2019-10-15 10:44 pm (UTC)Took me a while to figure out which link you were talking about -- then I reviewed it and thought, I don't have the busyness problem -- my friends do, so my social life is non-existent. When they have time to do something, I don't and vice versa. I work 8-4, add in an hour and a half commute, so 6:45 - 5:30. Getting up at 6. They work 9-5 or 10-6 or 1-10pm. They socialize and all activities are planned between 6:30-11:30 pm at night. Or in the morning. Also there's the people with flex hours -- so a lot of meetups and my church have activities planned while I'm at work.
There's this view -- societal that we should all work 40-180 work weeks, but that's not healthy. And there are enough people on the planet and we've enough technology that it also isn't necessary. Also that people need to busy all the time. I can't be busy all the time -- I would lose my mind. I leave work at work. I do not do ANY work at home or on vacation. I did when I first started, but then I stopped, because I wasn't paid for it and I wasn't thanked for it, and all it did was raise my stress levels. Also I managed my time well enough that I could get it done at work. Under my union agreement, if overtime is required, my company must provide compensatory hours (extra time off), so I am protected in a way.
And when I'm off work, I give myself plenty of down time. I can't be with people all day long and on a commute and then do stuff with them every weeknight as well. I know my limits.
But it does hamper one's social life and it makes it almost impossible to meet new people and form new friendships. Technology, like it or not, has in some ways isolated us more, we talk to each other less. I used to interact more with people on trains, shops, stores, parks, etc. Now everyone is glued to their smartphones or earphones and they don't see anyone.
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Date: 2019-10-16 12:17 am (UTC)It's definitely interesting to look at people's work weeks in contrast to what was predicted 50+ years ago as lives of leisure due to the growth of technology. In some ways it's true but not for the reasons they put forward, which is that people would work less. Instead it's because the things one can spend leisure time on have multiplied to where almost everyone is spoiled for choice.
Speaking of, I think you also posted the Blockbuster article? A good read that.
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Date: 2019-10-16 12:58 am (UTC)