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Oct. 13th, 2019 10:03 pm1. The difficulty about talking about certain things...is that everyone feels the need to relate them back to their own experience, when the truth is that some things just aren't relatable. Not everyone for example experiences sex the same way or has the same urges or the same fantasies or the same desires etc. Some people are monogamist -- they can only do it with one person, it has to be someone they love deeply and trust deeply, and have a commitment to -- otherwise it will not work. Others are more polygamist -- and can do it with a lot of different people, and love isn't an issue. And the spectrum in between. For some -- sex is a deeply intimate and personal thing, for others it's not.
Another example? Pain. There's been medical studies on this one. (There may be ones on sex too, I don't know, I haven't looked.)
(Correction, I did just look it up but alas, not a lot of links on sex...Did like this quote though from Planned Parenthood:
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* MRI Shows that People Feel Pain Differently
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* Brain imaging confirms that people experience pain differently
* Not Everyone Hurts the Same Way - LA Times
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I find it reassuring in a way to know this. And the gist? Yes we're different.
Moral: Don't compare yourself to other people. It's impossible and just makes you miserable.
2. 38 Wonderful Words With No English Equivalent
Hee.
Here's a sampling...of some of my favs. I particularly like Kummerspeck and Tartle.
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3. Why You Never See Your Friends Any More
I doubt this is the reason, but it's reassuring to know I'm not the only one.
4. Why Office Worker Can't Sleep and Why That's Bad
Hardly surprising. Too much blue light and not enough sunlight. I have very little during the day at work. And everyone around me struggles with sleep as well. Meanwhile the work place keeps sending out safety advisories on getting enough sleep. I'd like to send them this article -- if you made it possible for everyone to get sunlight, and work more from home with flexible hours -- then you wouldn't have a problem.
Sort of hard to do for a huge organization.
5. Founders removal from office is not the only purpose of impeachment
Another example? Pain. There's been medical studies on this one. (There may be ones on sex too, I don't know, I haven't looked.)
(Correction, I did just look it up but alas, not a lot of links on sex...Did like this quote though from Planned Parenthood:
( Read more... )
* MRI Shows that People Feel Pain Differently
( Read more... )
* Brain imaging confirms that people experience pain differently
* Not Everyone Hurts the Same Way - LA Times
( Read more... )
I find it reassuring in a way to know this. And the gist? Yes we're different.
Moral: Don't compare yourself to other people. It's impossible and just makes you miserable.
2. 38 Wonderful Words With No English Equivalent
Hee.
Here's a sampling...of some of my favs. I particularly like Kummerspeck and Tartle.
( Excerpt )
3. Why You Never See Your Friends Any More
I doubt this is the reason, but it's reassuring to know I'm not the only one.
4. Why Office Worker Can't Sleep and Why That's Bad
Hardly surprising. Too much blue light and not enough sunlight. I have very little during the day at work. And everyone around me struggles with sleep as well. Meanwhile the work place keeps sending out safety advisories on getting enough sleep. I'd like to send them this article -- if you made it possible for everyone to get sunlight, and work more from home with flexible hours -- then you wouldn't have a problem.
Sort of hard to do for a huge organization.
5. Founders removal from office is not the only purpose of impeachment